What do you do/think??

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hi again - are you in the process of getting a diagnosis for autism?  If you are then there's obviously something the professionals feel needs investigating further, so please don't blame yourself (something quite common for parents to do - check out some of the posts on this site).  You are not moaning + don't have to apologise.  We've all needed a good rant at times, people on here understand that.  It can be difficult when things happen + other people are around.  I sometimes think that if a lot of other people vanished or lots of people understood autism better, then life wd be a lot easier.  Autism can be difficult to explain to people + people's attitudes vary a lot.  When you feel pressurised to react, do you think how you react makes things better or worse?   I ask because there are all sorts of ways we can react to things + if we feel pressurised it can add to the angst.  bw

Hi 

Thanks for your comments.

She is only 5 and has only really begun to communicate in the last 14 months or so.

When I'm thinking rationally I come up with the same reasons you describe ie. she is not able to understand the feeling behind the statement etc. I do try to ignore it, I guess I feel pressured to react when she displays this in front of other members of the family or even worse public.

I'm finding it very difficult without a dignosis as I swing between believing there is something "wrong" and thinking it's my parenting and she is misbehaving.

Sorry if this seems like a moan, rant. But this in it's self is theraputic.

Thanks

Tracy 

hi - I think we can all react badly to certain words because we remember the context(s) in which they were used + those contexts cd have been negative.  My son has a few words he doesn't like people using.  He sees them as a criticism.   No-one wants to be criticised.  Also he likes to go at his own pace so if he has no reason to hurry up, then he won't.  On the other hand if he knows he has to keep an appt, catch a train, etc, then he'll be ready.  He will get up earlier so he isn't rushed.  I know he thinks some people are bossy in that they "take charge" of him.  Nobody wants to be bossed either.   I'm not saying you do this, but she may see things that way.  I try to use other words + plan ahead time-wise.  Also I try to include him in decision-making, explaining things to him honestly + don't rush him about that either.  He knows he has rights + he knows when to exercise them.  You don't say how old your daughter is.  Maybe her use of language is limited so when she expresses herself to you in a way that upsets you it may be the only way she has of expressing herself?  My son sometimes thinks someone doesn't love him + will say so.    He is younger than his years + doesn't differentiate between like + love, dislike + hate very well, whether these feelings are permanent or temporary.  Perhaps if you cd give us a bit more info there may be replies that may help more than this 1.  These a just a few thoughts from reading your post.

meme energy,, the root of all words carry a social energy with is inherit with the word over time generations.. autism carries an inherit fear emotion and thus negative bias thinking., towards negative meme. On the spot authority control speaking is not normal to a free autistic mind, you are trying to control your daughters behaviour with fear words,, you need to soften them up and cue slowly,, with a smile in your kind eyes.