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Not a happy bunny

Hope

 

I was supposed to meet someone today for tea in town. As you can imagine, it was not easy getting out of bed at 9am with the heavy rain hitting the windows, and still in a sleep fog. But the power of the will prevailed and I got the bus into town.

I waited outside the cafe for over half an hour, but the person in question did not turn up. Feeling stressed, I got the bus back home, feeling irritated and annoyed.

Maybe she got the day wrong? She has not attempted to contact me.

Even worse, I arrived 10 minutes early.

  • Hi Hope,

    maybe text your friend. I know my mind would be coming up with all sorts of possibilities and theories. Anything not going to plan really bugs me, add to that some uncertainty about peoples motives..... Go for the facts, they can be reassuring.

  • Phone your friend and tell her, what you just wrote here.

    If she can not explain what happened to her to your satisfaction, lower your expectation of the relationship(off her/him in the future) or break it off completely if this relationship is not what you expected or want, a breach the trust gap is not good for people with Autism. Protect your emotions and keep your constant(balance). 

  • i undersand this can be quite stressful to autistics, when arangments arent kept as the routine and expectation is broken and it will be running through your head, you wont understand what happend, why, etc,

    but as denise says, you are best to call the person and ask as it could be any number of things, it does sound like she just forgot as she didnt contact you, and i understand that will also be frustrating, but all you can do is try to help your frustration by doing things you enjoy and know helpSmile

  • Hi Hope, I would maybe ring your friend and say, "is everything ok..., as we were supposed to meet on saturday, are you okay?"

    Just incase something important came up and she/he couldnt have made it.  There could be all sorts of reasons.

    She may well have forgot all about it.  I know i have to write things down now or i forget everything! ;0)

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