Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
I'm looking to connect with siblings of autistic people who have had children or would like to have children.
My sister and I have a younger brother with low-functioning autism and complex needs, he needs at least 1-2-1 care. My mother has Asperger and her brother has mild autism and lives in a care home.
As it seems its hereditary in my family, I have reached out to a doctors and have been referred to a genetics counselor. However, I understand they probably won't be able to tell me that much.
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Look forward to talking.
Marilyn
Knowing what I know today, I don't think I would have wanted children.
I have a diagnosis, although I seem to be doing rather well. My brother is having all the signs of it. His son has a diagnosis.
My father committed suicide when I was 9.I suspect the autism came from my father, but on my mother's side there's also a lot going on.
Her mother, my grandmother is described as somebody with ADHD, with type 1 diabetes also. Her sister was put in a nursing home from a rather young age (50 or so). My mother was once in a mental institution at the age of 18. My father committed suicide, so did the husband of the sister of my mom. Her son then also committed suicide after she passed away. My younger sister is now in a mental institution, my older sister is also under heavy medication. I remember her to have a manic phase once. I remember my mother telling me once that there was something in the family that seems to pass especially in the female lineage.
My daughter told me once before I had the diagnosis that she didn't want children. Then that felt a bit unpleasant, now I think it's probably a good thing.
She also gets to talk to a psychologist, although I think she'll be fine, she had a good childhood and my wife is a fantastic mother to both children.