So recently my eldest son has been interested in anime including naruto and my hero academia. He had recently become obsessed with the naruto character Sakura Haruno. He's been watching videos and cosplays of her online, searching things up about her and keeps talking about her to me. He now also wants to cosplay as her.
Does anybody know how to tell him to calm down about his obsession without offending him.
No, lol. My daughter is obsessed with characters, Me talking about this makes things worse. Sorry not being of much help.
These obsessions tend to get traded in after a while for new obsessions.
Special interests is kind of inherent to autism, it can sometimes make or break the succes in a job. If you have most social traits against you, but you excel in knowledge and work-ethics, you might keep a job.
Does it worry you that as a boy he wants to dress up like a girl?
Random idea not based on any experience, but have you thought of trying to get him interested in doing other things with this? At the moment he's got all this enthusiasm but not much of a use or outlet for this besides watching videos and talking, which isn't what you'd call a very nutritious way to spend your time. Like he could try drawing her and other Naruto scenes and characters. If he throws himself into that with as much enthusiasm as he's showing for talking and watching videos, he might be quite a decent cartoonist by the time he loses interest in Naruto and moves on to the next thing, which can't be a bad thing. And while he's drawing he wouldn't be bending your ear about it :-D
An autistic kid being made to feel bad about his obsession.
Definitely ban him from Anime - it may make him normal!
Why do you want him to 'calm down about his obsession'? Is it hurting anyone?
Not really he's going to college in a few months And I want him to focus on getting ready due to it being a big transition.
Thanks and not really it makes him happy then I allow him to dress up as the character she isn't very feminine.
In general, strong interests should be seen as a learning opportunity. Going deeper into most subjects and really understanding all its aspects can lead to developing all kinds of skills, artistic, social or otherwise. Hence people ending up with PhDs in Buffy.
I think this is pretty common with people with autism, and usually fades away after a while. Maybe you can teach them to tone it down, or keep some time aside for it so it doesn't get in the way of other things (school/work etc), but I wouldn't worry too much x