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Residential ... decisions!!

mum.com

I would love to hear from anyone who has had to make the very painful decision to send their beloved child into a residential setting to live and maybe come home at weekends. My boy is 13 and severely autistic. He was diagnosed when 2 and a half and has no langauge apart from repeating things.  

He has become extremely difficult to manage at home.  We have four other children and none of us want him to go but at the same time know that we cannot carry on like this as a family.  We have tried everything to help our son. Home schooling, one to one for 40 hours a week. He accesses great things at his school but when at home wont leave his bedroom. We use photos for his schedules all day every day and he is on a anti pyscotic drug to keep him calm but we are now at a point where nothing seems to help.

Love to hear from anyone out there 

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  • Hi mum.com,

    That sounds like an incredibly difficult decision for you to be making.  You must have done so well for you to get this far and raise four other children.

    I don't have any advice to offer I'm afraid, as I've never had this experience.  Though it reminds me of the decisions my parents and parents in law were making with grandparents going into care homes.

    I boils down to what is best for them - are you able to offer the care they need at home, are their demands seriously impinging on your other priorities (like your children)?  All I can say is to be as rational about it as possible.

    Is this something that you can communicate with your son about?

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  • Hi mum.com,

    That sounds like an incredibly difficult decision for you to be making.  You must have done so well for you to get this far and raise four other children.

    I don't have any advice to offer I'm afraid, as I've never had this experience.  Though it reminds me of the decisions my parents and parents in law were making with grandparents going into care homes.

    I boils down to what is best for them - are you able to offer the care they need at home, are their demands seriously impinging on your other priorities (like your children)?  All I can say is to be as rational about it as possible.

    Is this something that you can communicate with your son about?

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