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Anthony

I’ve reached a conclusion. I’m done with people. I’m done with trying to  work out why I struggle so much socially. So I’m opting for life long loneliness because whilst miserable it’s a damn slight easier than trying to get along with people :-/

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  • I feel the same and have been thinking that I will probably live alone forever because I feel 80% introverted and need my own space. I do enjoy socialising with family and friends occassionally but after so long I want my own space back and I do not know how I would cope with living with a partner or kids

  • in reply to NAS62563

    I like getting to know people but struggle to maintain friendships or people just take a disliking of me. It’s genuinely draining the life out of me. 

  • in reply to Anthony

    Hi, I just wondered, if you stood outside yourself looking in, do you know what this dislike is (not asking you to say it here)? I know what people dislike about me, but maybe you dislike yourself more than they do? Do you get feedback from them, or do they disappear? You don't have to answer any of these by the way.

    I could group the dislikes of myself into categories of things I can't change, things I could change but don't want to, things I wish I could change and things I'm not yet aware of. Like talking about something and stimming,   or talking for 20 minutes when they gave up listening in the first minute. I could probably do something about it but I won't because it's too hard. 

  • in reply to Plectrum

    Some of it I’ve figured out - but generally I am clueless to it. I’ve tried just being myself then trying to change different things but it all ends up the same way. I think I may be too intense for some people but as pathetic as it sounds I think my values rarely alone with others and this is an issue. Thing is I’m a caring person in my own way. I am however getting to the point where my social ineptitude is destroying my life and wellbeing. I do struggle to understand perspectives unless I’m told bluntly. I’m terrible at reading people which I guess makes learning from this much harder.

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  • in reply to Plectrum

    Some of it I’ve figured out - but generally I am clueless to it. I’ve tried just being myself then trying to change different things but it all ends up the same way. I think I may be too intense for some people but as pathetic as it sounds I think my values rarely alone with others and this is an issue. Thing is I’m a caring person in my own way. I am however getting to the point where my social ineptitude is destroying my life and wellbeing. I do struggle to understand perspectives unless I’m told bluntly. I’m terrible at reading people which I guess makes learning from this much harder.

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