• Replies 14 replies
  • Subscribers 33 subscribers
  • Views 4499 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Eye Contact

GE90BEN

I really struggle with this. Even my friends, Girlfriend and my family. When i do make eye contact its at silent points in the conversation which is obviously not the correct point. Also when i have to look into peoples eyes for a long time they start to water and since im mid conversation, whether that be with my employer or my parents, i cant do anything like wipe them or anything. I cant do this eye contact thing, I do listen to what people say but since im not making eye contact they think im taking no notice. I also feel like im being watched when im out. One way i dealt with this is wearing sunglasses everytime i went out. It helps a lot and makes me feel more at ease making eye contact since the person i am chatting to cant see my eyes. This of course isn't always possible to do for example at night time you will look silly.

Any tips for improving eye contact. I have tried the talking to myself in the mirror but i feel so uncomfortable and my eyes start to water and i just automatically look everywhere but myself in the mirror. Its annoying because people get a bad impression from me. They think im taking no notice and im not interested in the conversation or im not listening etc.

Sorry about the puncutation in this post. I tend to use commas a lot instead of full stops. Dont really know the difference Stuck out tongue

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Parents

  • I learnt to look through people rather than look them in the eye. When I was a kid I used to get the mick taken when other kids were bullying, they reckoned I looked like I was about to start bawling it because my eyes would start to move rapidly everywhere else but them. So now it's a mixture of I either look at something out of the window or at a point on a wall, or I sort of look at the other persons chin while in conversation to make it look more like I'm focusing on them. When talking to family and friends though, I don't need to make the effort due to them knowing and understanding why I'm like I am.

Reply

  • I learnt to look through people rather than look them in the eye. When I was a kid I used to get the mick taken when other kids were bullying, they reckoned I looked like I was about to start bawling it because my eyes would start to move rapidly everywhere else but them. So now it's a mixture of I either look at something out of the window or at a point on a wall, or I sort of look at the other persons chin while in conversation to make it look more like I'm focusing on them. When talking to family and friends though, I don't need to make the effort due to them knowing and understanding why I'm like I am.

Children
No Data