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I HAVE ASPERGERS - Please can you help me reach out to friends/acquaintances during this crisis?

NAS24919
over 4 years ago
I HAVE ASPERGERS - Please can you help me reach out to friends/acquaintances during this crisis?

Hi everyone,

I am here in the UK, and today, all social venues have been asked to close indefinitely. For me, this rounds off quite a difficult week - where all of my regular social contact has been cut off due to the global C - 19 crisis. I am worried that this will make me very isolated now (I am away from University at the moment, so away from a lot of people). Please could you help me write an initial message that I can use to reach out to friends I have on my Facebook list, so that I can initiate a Facebook/Skype chat with them?

I am quite a shy person, so don't really speak to friends often, but many have said that they care and I can 'always speak to them'. I sort of feel that I have lots of acquaintances, but few close friends due to my natural shyness (such as the difficulties I am having now in reaching out) stopping me from developing closer friendships.

I have drafted my initial thoughts below:

"Hi __________,

I hope that you are well? Just wondering if we could have a chat on here at some point (if you are available)? How's this C - 19 affecting you - everything feels so isolated now! I'm quite shy (socially) and having a chat with you means a lot to me!

Best wishes,

[My Name]"

Please could you say if this is okay to send, of if you could help me write something more concise that will help me reach out?

Thank you so much for any help.

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  • over 4 years ago

    I am terrible at initiating contact, I  really suck at trying to figure out other people's intentions.  To try and get around this, I try to "create the intention" - in other words, leave a virtual door open for any person that wants to enter.  

    It's no use in an "acute" situation, but if I am  just lonely.  I think of it as "fishing" for friends:

    1. take a photo of something nice or something that might be interesting: eg the leaves are opening on a tree outside , the sun is casting an awesome shadow on the wall, or there is a squirrel.  Try to find something thought provoking or humorous.    2. post it on facebook with a caption that prompts people to "like" or respond, eg. "it seems the squirrel has come out of isolation".   3.  When someone responds, take the opportunity to message that person individually in messenger , say "hello X, nice to hear from you, how are you getting on?"       

    Since they came to my picture and liked it , i feel they are more open for a chat and I am not boring them or bothering them.  

    I am rubbish at chatting but that's another matter Smiley

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  • over 4 years ago

    I am terrible at initiating contact, I  really suck at trying to figure out other people's intentions.  To try and get around this, I try to "create the intention" - in other words, leave a virtual door open for any person that wants to enter.  

    It's no use in an "acute" situation, but if I am  just lonely.  I think of it as "fishing" for friends:

    1. take a photo of something nice or something that might be interesting: eg the leaves are opening on a tree outside , the sun is casting an awesome shadow on the wall, or there is a squirrel.  Try to find something thought provoking or humorous.    2. post it on facebook with a caption that prompts people to "like" or respond, eg. "it seems the squirrel has come out of isolation".   3.  When someone responds, take the opportunity to message that person individually in messenger , say "hello X, nice to hear from you, how are you getting on?"       

    Since they came to my picture and liked it , i feel they are more open for a chat and I am not boring them or bothering them.  

    I am rubbish at chatting but that's another matter Smiley

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