What would you do.

Yesterday was just horrible in our house, son had been quite confused on Thursday in school ( he'd only been back wed & thurs after being to stressed to go after exams ). i had already decided to keep him home on Friday, kicking my self I'd sent him the other 2 days,he was quite confused when he woke up and I told him he was staying home, I went to make a cup of tea and phone his cahms worker, to tell her he was pretty bad, when I came back In The room , no more than 5 mins. He was completely mute, couldn't remember who I was, what his name was, and just moved his head slightly to acknowlage what I was saying, it took 5 hrs for him to start to come back to us, and another couple hrs before he could recognise all his pictures of family and friends. Has this happened to any one else. It happened before when he was 11, he's now 15. It's been a very heavy few weeks with exams (we are trying to get him out of) and all the cahms intervention/ meetings I  don't know what to do for the best now, do I keep him at home for a while, let him chill, although the stress of a change of environment will keep stress up a bit. Do I send hiM Half days, keep him off til school sort them selves out and realise they have a kid that really can't cope on their hands.cahms say, once he's feeling better, get him straight back In to school or he'll stress about being off. I just want to wrap him In bubble wrap and keep them all away from him!!. 

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  • I am an adult, formally diagnosed with Aspergers.

    Does your son like school?

    I think this is the crucial question. If it is just the exams then he simply shouldn't be doing exams, and he can go to school but not be involved in the exams. If it is school he is stressed with and does not enjoy, then he shouldn't be going to school at all.

    I sufferred from shutdowns (which it sounds like your son is having), where I could not even be awoken from sleep, or if I was awake I could not speak, or even take sips of water to drink. It is crucial to remove the reason for the stress response.

    Do not be bullied into thinking your son has to take exams. If I had done exams at school I would have failed them all. Why are the school so concerned he takes the exams? It is very important that people with ASDs are not rushed into doing things before they are ready, it is impossible to recover from that kind of pushing. I don't know what level your son is at, but I waited til I was ready and did very well in exams, but not through the school system.

    I hope your son is feeling better.

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  • I am an adult, formally diagnosed with Aspergers.

    Does your son like school?

    I think this is the crucial question. If it is just the exams then he simply shouldn't be doing exams, and he can go to school but not be involved in the exams. If it is school he is stressed with and does not enjoy, then he shouldn't be going to school at all.

    I sufferred from shutdowns (which it sounds like your son is having), where I could not even be awoken from sleep, or if I was awake I could not speak, or even take sips of water to drink. It is crucial to remove the reason for the stress response.

    Do not be bullied into thinking your son has to take exams. If I had done exams at school I would have failed them all. Why are the school so concerned he takes the exams? It is very important that people with ASDs are not rushed into doing things before they are ready, it is impossible to recover from that kind of pushing. I don't know what level your son is at, but I waited til I was ready and did very well in exams, but not through the school system.

    I hope your son is feeling better.

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