Published on 12, July, 2020
Are these the same thing or is there some subtle difference that I'm missing? To me "I don't mind" is what NTs say when they don't care, whereas I just say it like it is. People always seem slightly taken aback when I say I don't care, but it's honest—maybe too honest.
Examples: What would you like for dinner? Which shops would you like to browse in? When would you like to book a holiday? How would you like the flower girls to have their hair at our wedding?
I think you're right - "I don't mind" just seems to be the softer way of saying "I don't care". I think it's a very British quirk :)
When I say I don't care, it is the extreme of my emotion to the point I don't think I would say I don't care because if it's in my mind I do care, and for me there is no middle ground between I do care and I do not care.
When I say I don't mind it means to me I have no objections.