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HELP !!!!!

Dawn

Hi, oh where to start ! Well my son is now 13 and was diagnosed with ADHD at about the age of seven, that being after i spent 4-5yrs fighting my GP to actually get a referral (incidently still waiting for that, had to take a diversion). Tom has been seing a phyciatrist ever since and currently takes Concerta xl and as thought was plodding along nicely. So to cut a long story short we went on tuesday for our 3 monthly appointment. The Dr told me that she has been seing Tom for a long time now and wasnt going to say anything as she didnt want him to have another "label" to deal with (he was also born with a hand deformity) anyway it seems she thinks he also has ASD and asked if i wanted her to begin getting a diagnosis. YES ! I had never heard of this before so came home and read up on it and to be honest deep down i know that its a case of WHEN and not If we get the results ! He is the same little boy i know and love so why do i feel like my whole world has caved in !! Im worried about what the future holds for him now ? Any advice would be good right now ! Thanks.

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  • hi Dawn - I agree with MrsP about the eye contact - could make things worse, as could making him apologise to a strange (hell).  Both these techniques would routinely be used for children without autism, but could create more problems for you and Tom.  He's picked up a word from somewhere, "freak" and gets a reaction when he uses it.  Does he know exactly what it means?  My son picked up the F-word from tv.  We told him some words are not nice and people get upset if you speak those words to them.  We didn't show any reaction.  My son notices big reactions more easily, so it might have encouraged him to repeat to see if it got the same response, altho he doesn't know the meaning of the word.  Maybe a reward system for Tom if he doesn't use the word whilst out would help.  My son responds to rewards, as long as it's something he really likes!

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  • hi Dawn - I agree with MrsP about the eye contact - could make things worse, as could making him apologise to a strange (hell).  Both these techniques would routinely be used for children without autism, but could create more problems for you and Tom.  He's picked up a word from somewhere, "freak" and gets a reaction when he uses it.  Does he know exactly what it means?  My son picked up the F-word from tv.  We told him some words are not nice and people get upset if you speak those words to them.  We didn't show any reaction.  My son notices big reactions more easily, so it might have encouraged him to repeat to see if it got the same response, altho he doesn't know the meaning of the word.  Maybe a reward system for Tom if he doesn't use the word whilst out would help.  My son responds to rewards, as long as it's something he really likes!

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