Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey,
My son is 4, he has ASD.
My friends all obviously know about my sons condition and his difficulties - primarily his speech, with his social interaction being not far behind.
When I get together with my closest friend, who has a son of a similar age to my little one, we naturally discuss our boys. But my friend insists on telling me all about the lengthly conversations she has with her son and about his large circle of friends, and how his friends squabble over who gets to sit next to him at school, etc. This really upsets me (not that I let it show to my friend), as I can't help but think about how I may never be able to have a conversation with my son, how he has such few friends .
Am I over reacting or is my friend being slightly insensitive??
Umm neither? Don't mean to cop out but I utterly sympathise with you and have felt the same way but I suspect your friend would be really upset to realise how you felt. Parents without special needs kids don't often get it, how can they? A bit like friends that never had kids at all. She's just letting you in on what's going on for her and our lives do tend to revolve around our kids when they are small.
I remember my friend talking about how her son swore in front of her mum and how terrible it was. I said I'd be happy forjust one word and she was devastated and that made me feel bad! Perhaps just bring it up in a general way when you are talking about your son. Good luck!