Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
My partner is 28 years old, I have been with him for 10 years now and he really has struggled for a long time since a child with a number of difficulties that are associated with autism!
These are;
- very poor social and communication skills
- Can’t Make / maintain friendships very well/ only has 1 friend.
- lack of empathy and compassion towards others (even with me and his family)
- very high sensitivity to light, certain things to touch
- mood swings/ angry outbursts/ hostile
- finds it hard to tell me his feelings and emotions- finds it easier to put in txt or writing.
- good memory/ remembers little details
- finds it hard to compliment or praise - will pick the negative out of everything
- struggles in groups of people with social gatherings or work meetings- he feels overwhelmed and socially awkward.
- cannot manage his own outgoings/debt
- clumsy
- not very tolerant of loud noises/ people
can anybody give me some advice please? Thanks!
certainly sounds a familarl list! perhaps try one of the online tests - AQ10 is a nice short one, or AQ50 a fuller version
https://www.2gether.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/ASC-AQ10-screening-form.docx AQ10 or https://psychology-tools.com/test/autism-spectrum-quotient AQ50
Hi NAS63447,
You might want to have a look at the page here on the NAS site about getting a diagnosis as an adult - https://www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/adults.aspx - which outlines the process of getting a diagnosis, the benefits of doing so, and links to further information. Based on your description it sounds like it would be worth you and your partner talking to his GP and seeing whether they think your partner should be referred for a diagnosis.
Best wishes
Ross - mod