Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm very frustrated because I got my diagnosis last June and felt like it made sense but my mum has two autistic boys. She spent months getting their diagnosis, the boys were asked so much in that time about there childhood anf growibg up, whereas I went to 2 sessions that were 2 hours each long and got my diagnosis after the second one (same questions about childhood but I didnt have any physical activities to do just talking during my assessment). when I got my diagnosis my mum keeps telling me I'm not autistic and have been missdiagnosed it's really stressing me out because I cannot stop thinking am I autistic or am I not because I don't know if to go forward with it and think ok I get things wrong sometimes because I'm autistic or think actually something else is wrong with me that I don't know and I need to be rediagnosed because my mum said I never showed any of the signs when I was growing up as a kid I don't know what to do right now but I'm really stressed and cannot turn my brain off thinking about this. My mum's opinion is very important to me because she's my mum she's known me since birth so surely my mum is right?
Either way its keeping me awake and its hurting my brain not to have a 100% yes or no answer, I hate this so much, im so tired of thinking, my mum thinks I should be diagnosed with something like extreme anxiety as I get very stressed easily and I've recently recovered from a period of moderate depression.
You were assessed by a professional who diagnosed you as autistic,
I think your mum is over focusing on the boys assessment and using it to measure yours in comparison, lots of people have different experiences of assessment that does not make them any less valid.
I would suggest pointing your mum towards alot of the research and literature about the difference in autism in women and girls and how they are often misdiagnosed with anxiety and other problems instead of receiving an autism diagnosis,
I understand its important to you for your mum to accept your diagnosis, but don't let it get to you to much, I know parents can be difficult and always think they are right I have similar problems with my mum she sees my daughters autism for what it is but when I point out that I have had those "traits" since childhood she dismisses it as I'm just odd! I think in part because she doesn't want to think she could have missed something like that, meaning she would question herself as a parent.