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How can I help my daughter? Please help.

Daisy

Hi

My daughter is 8 in yr3 of main stream school with a diagnosis of 'mild autism'. Her school does not recognise that she has any difficulties and have not even given her an IEP. I desparately want to help her tackle her social difficulties. She finds it very difficult to communicate with her peers. She feels very uncomfortable and struggles to talk or make eye contact with any of them. I know she needs some help but I don't know what to do.

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  • Ah the 'mild' crap.

    Due to that, and the fact that I was taught how to keep eye contact etc at will, I am constantly being told by the carers 'well its only mild aspergers'(yes, carers from NAS), even though mild is actually in reference to the comorbids.

    The issue is that most people with autism find it intimidating to make eye contact, teach them that keeping solid eye contact is a sign of power and confidence that will make others less likely to piss her off or question her.(Tell me an almost expressionless face isnt intimidating in a 'haunted' way)

    Speech therapy is a good idea, I had that when little, but they will find it annoying, give them ice cream or somethign after each meeting as the meetings are nothing but repetitive 'try saying blah' ... 'no, mor of the tada noise'.

    At parents evening go in to see the parents all guns blazing - they are contracted to listen at this point, and have the social pressuire of waiting parents to actually listen. Also consider putting i na complain to the head of school, as ka NAS carer to acompany you so that they can hand over hte leaflets to scare them a bit (looks more official). Also ask if they have a learning support department. My old school had 3, bullies, bullied, spectrum (in short).

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  • Ah the 'mild' crap.

    Due to that, and the fact that I was taught how to keep eye contact etc at will, I am constantly being told by the carers 'well its only mild aspergers'(yes, carers from NAS), even though mild is actually in reference to the comorbids.

    The issue is that most people with autism find it intimidating to make eye contact, teach them that keeping solid eye contact is a sign of power and confidence that will make others less likely to piss her off or question her.(Tell me an almost expressionless face isnt intimidating in a 'haunted' way)

    Speech therapy is a good idea, I had that when little, but they will find it annoying, give them ice cream or somethign after each meeting as the meetings are nothing but repetitive 'try saying blah' ... 'no, mor of the tada noise'.

    At parents evening go in to see the parents all guns blazing - they are contracted to listen at this point, and have the social pressuire of waiting parents to actually listen. Also consider putting i na complain to the head of school, as ka NAS carer to acompany you so that they can hand over hte leaflets to scare them a bit (looks more official). Also ask if they have a learning support department. My old school had 3, bullies, bullied, spectrum (in short).

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