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How can I help my daughter? Please help.

Daisy

Hi

My daughter is 8 in yr3 of main stream school with a diagnosis of 'mild autism'. Her school does not recognise that she has any difficulties and have not even given her an IEP. I desparately want to help her tackle her social difficulties. She finds it very difficult to communicate with her peers. She feels very uncomfortable and struggles to talk or make eye contact with any of them. I know she needs some help but I don't know what to do.

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  • I think that longman has put it very well. My presentation is mild, but the effects of aspergers on my life are anything but mild. And when I was a child, my presentation was far more obvious, but no name was given for my condition back then. My parents knew that I was not a 'normal' child. At nursury school I was assessed as having motor delay: I was slow in learning how to dress myself and I could not do the most basic of jigsaws. My parents were later told that I had severe non-verbal perceptual and spatial awareness difficulties. Eye-contact was deemed to be poor at one assessment, although good in another, and my parents were told that I was both 'physically and emotionally immature'. I had poor organization abilities, tending to put everything in one place at school, and I was not good at team sports like netball.

    I only made one 'friend' in my class at primary school. But the quality of this friendship was poor. I often broke up with my 'friend' because I did not want anyone else to talk with her. I was very possessive. I spent many a playtime on my own, running around, playing my own games, annoying people in the process.

    At secondary school I made more of an effort to fit in, but my social ineptitude was misconstrued as simple shyness. I remember noticing how easy it was for the other girls to converse with one another, and I questioned why it was that I find communication so difficult. I still do, but I have developed coping mechanisms that can effectively hide my aspergers. But at least I have been diagnosed and so finally have a name for my problems

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  • I think that longman has put it very well. My presentation is mild, but the effects of aspergers on my life are anything but mild. And when I was a child, my presentation was far more obvious, but no name was given for my condition back then. My parents knew that I was not a 'normal' child. At nursury school I was assessed as having motor delay: I was slow in learning how to dress myself and I could not do the most basic of jigsaws. My parents were later told that I had severe non-verbal perceptual and spatial awareness difficulties. Eye-contact was deemed to be poor at one assessment, although good in another, and my parents were told that I was both 'physically and emotionally immature'. I had poor organization abilities, tending to put everything in one place at school, and I was not good at team sports like netball.

    I only made one 'friend' in my class at primary school. But the quality of this friendship was poor. I often broke up with my 'friend' because I did not want anyone else to talk with her. I was very possessive. I spent many a playtime on my own, running around, playing my own games, annoying people in the process.

    At secondary school I made more of an effort to fit in, but my social ineptitude was misconstrued as simple shyness. I remember noticing how easy it was for the other girls to converse with one another, and I questioned why it was that I find communication so difficult. I still do, but I have developed coping mechanisms that can effectively hide my aspergers. But at least I have been diagnosed and so finally have a name for my problems

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