bad day!

stelaine said:

hiya

just need somewhere to rant off too! sorry in advance.

My son 5 was diagnosed with asd in april today we are havin a really bad day, he is being awfully bad behaved, telling me to shut up whenever i talk ,slamming doors, just being rude.....im at my wits end with it all as i dont know how to control it or what to say , im getting myself down and he can see it and i feel he plays on that ive tried to be strong for so long but today im at my wits end...

sorry for goin on just needed to get it out 

hi there stelaine, the problem with autism is you really cant 'control' it to a huge degreee, a lot of the time they and us have to just get through it

you think he can see it?, i dont know about that, autistics have a problem understanding and reading other peoples emotions, even the high functioning ones, so its unlikely he 'sees' how it affects you, but, he MIGHT be having some echopraxia /echoalia from you, if your down he mimics you being down, and the way he might express that is to be stressed and frustrated and 'rude'

im not sure if he plays on it or not either, again in general manipulation isnt something autistics are particularly good at , as it usually means understanding people well enough to know how you can get what you want

did you have anyone really sit and explain what him having autism means?

as an autistic he basically can't understand or read emotions very well, if at all, and  that for the most part that means anything he might 'seem' like hes doing, he probbaly isnt doing or at least isnt doing it on purpose

stelaine said:

hiya

just need somewhere to rant off too! sorry in advance.

My son 5 was diagnosed with asd in april today we are havin a really bad day, he is being awfully bad behaved, telling me to shut up whenever i talk ,slamming doors, just being rude.....im at my wits end with it all as i dont know how to control it or what to say , im getting myself down and he can see it and i feel he plays on that ive tried to be strong for so long but today im at my wits end...

sorry for goin on just needed to get it out 

hi there stelaine, the problem with autism is you really cant 'control' it to a huge degreee, a lot of the time they and us have to just get through it

you think he can see it?, i dont know about that, autistics have a problem understanding and reading other peoples emotions, even the high functioning ones, so its unlikely he 'sees' how it affects you, but, he MIGHT be having some echopraxia /echoalia from you, if your down he mimics you being down, and the way he might express that is to be stressed and frustrated and 'rude'

im not sure if he plays on it or not either, again in general manipulation isnt something autistics are particularly good at , as it usually means understanding people well enough to know how you can get what you want

did you have anyone really sit and explain what him having autism means?

as an autistic he basically can't understand or read emotions very well, if at all, and  that for the most part that means anything he might 'seem' like hes doing, he probbaly isnt doing or at least isnt doing it on purpose