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bad day!

stelaine

hiya

just need somewhere to rant off too! sorry in advance.

My son 5 was diagnosed with asd in april today we are havin a really bad day, he is being awfully bad behaved, telling me to shut up whenever i talk ,slamming doors, just being rude.....im at my wits end with it all as i dont know how to control it or what to say , im getting myself down and he can see it and i feel he plays on that ive tried to be strong for so long but today im at my wits end...

sorry for goin on just needed to get it out 

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  • hi - there may be things which are stressing him out.  He is unlikely to understand he is being rude.  He won't use the niceties of language because of the autism, unless he's instructed in certain phrases to use.   Has he got a daily routine when at home?  That might help to settle him down, at least for some parts of the day. Are there ways he can use up his energy.  My son was sometimes full of beans and would go on his play equipment in the garden and give it some welly!  My son seems to notice "bigger" reactions, probably because they're easier to interpret.  At the same time, there is the concern of the big reaction being overly dramatic and how would he react to that?   Is he easily distracted?  Would that work?  When you're tired and frazzled it's not at all easy to keep your cool and think objectively. I've had times when I felt just like you.   Perhaps he's missing the routine of school?  My son had favourite videos - does yours?  A bit of telly watching could give you both a bit of relief.  Sorry if I'm suggesting things you've already tried.  Maybe you've done all the things I'm mentioning.  Does he get any respite care?  bw

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  • hi - there may be things which are stressing him out.  He is unlikely to understand he is being rude.  He won't use the niceties of language because of the autism, unless he's instructed in certain phrases to use.   Has he got a daily routine when at home?  That might help to settle him down, at least for some parts of the day. Are there ways he can use up his energy.  My son was sometimes full of beans and would go on his play equipment in the garden and give it some welly!  My son seems to notice "bigger" reactions, probably because they're easier to interpret.  At the same time, there is the concern of the big reaction being overly dramatic and how would he react to that?   Is he easily distracted?  Would that work?  When you're tired and frazzled it's not at all easy to keep your cool and think objectively. I've had times when I felt just like you.   Perhaps he's missing the routine of school?  My son had favourite videos - does yours?  A bit of telly watching could give you both a bit of relief.  Sorry if I'm suggesting things you've already tried.  Maybe you've done all the things I'm mentioning.  Does he get any respite care?  bw

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