Does anyone get so worried about things in life that they start catastrophising?
I do that all the time recently. I have been so anxious. One thing leads to another and it's like a mind map
with bunting or a ghost with heavy silver chains starts to subsist their right in the back of my mind...
Ugh feeling so low right now.
My partner does something similar to this, he literally has almost graphic nightmares about something happening to me or the kids and sees it in vivid details only he is not asleep when it happens and once he starts thinking about it he can't focus on anything else,
Hi there. I think you're describing a very common trait to the autistic mindset.
My suspicion is that it stems from a few very key autistic traits: a) our habit of 'processing' (rather than 'feeling') through our mental landscapes and incoming stimuli, b) the natural anxiety we feel from trying to constantly self-manage a whole range of (over)stimuli, c) that autsitics tend to think in visual terms (which can make snapshots of 'catastrophic outcomes' seem that much more real and anxiety-provoking).
If you don't mind me asking - do you think primarily in pictures / visual terms?
I did this massively around 8 years ago, and it came about via a desire for certainty (& if certainty couldn't be had, I would take two or three alternative certainties, if that makes sense).
*Eventually* I managed to use the techniques of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (some with a therapist, but the majority alone) to say things to myself quite firmly "This is not helping", "You've been here before in your thoughts and it didn't help - in fact it damaged your mental health", "STOP!", "React to what happens, not what might happen",
This is a very personal journey and (unfortunately) no-one else can do it for you (us).
I know what you mean about the mind map / chains etc - that's what I meant about following every possible thread so that you can say with certainty "ONE of these things will happen 100% and if it does, this is how I will react / what it will mean for me". I've constructed worry chains starting with for e.g. a minor accidental breach of a speed limit leading to me being murdered in prison! Even typing that feels risky, as if some cosmic policeman will take my alleged admission of once breaking a speed limit and damn me eternally for it.
You *can* beat it, but it takes determination.
I'm done with Christmas Cards said:a minor accidental breach of a speed limit leading to me being murdered in prison
I have to apologise, as I laughed out aloud at this. After all, when you just read it as it is, it is (in-part) funny... as the logic is so tenuous. But am I laughing at you? Definitely not; because as an autistic individual, this type of thinking is frighteningly familiar to me, and I can precisely follow the style of logic.
That's why this forum is a god-send... as it's always reassuring to know their are others out there just as batty as I am!
My partner sees these trains of thought visualy and conceives multiple scenarios for each one ie the slightest little change causing different outcome, he has started recognising when he is doing it and stops it now ( most of the time) he also does it with conversations he plans in advance for every possible reaction the other person could give, he literally over thinks everything.
He doesn't have formal diagnosis but we are sure that he is asd, it is a comfort to find others think this way as he always thought he was just nuts ( despite me telling him he wasn't )
I am constantly worried I'll be framed for murder when I happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time and I won't have the language skills to explain myself properly and I end up being found guilty. I pretty much think about this every day for as long as I remember, along with many other things. I had no idea this might be related to autism.
I've never admitted that to anyone before. I assumed it was just my crazy brain spouting crazies at me. Which I guess it still is in a way.
Exactly :-) that's partly why I wrote that particular example. I don't know for sure that it's 100% a real example from my life, but it easily could be. And when you get used to thinking like that, the bar for "silly" moves to the wrong place and you end up classifying completely outlandish things as viable!
Another - 100% real - example from my life is that I once posted a loan application (before the internet!) in a bit of a hurry when I needed the money quickly, and said to my wife "What if a family of mice are nesting in the post box and eat the application? Or some teenagers put a firework in the box and set fire to it?" She now only has to say "Family of mice, eh?" when I'm worrying unnecessarily and that's usually enough to bring me back to common sense.
I often think in pictures and visually.
I am into the creative and visual arts because I am very creative in my personality.
I often wonder how do Neurotypicals think? Do they think in words, numbers or even hear their own voice in their head?
What do they do? Honestly the mind boggles.
Oh dear, it sounds to me that your husband might need to see his GP about this.
I'm not sure what they can offer to help apart from medicine.
Perhaps he's anxious I often take propranolol before I sleep or herbal tea to calm me down.
It is very common for Autistic people to have nightmares, sometimes I have nightmares about when my sister was ill when she was a baby or being bullied in school.