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hi - how much does your little boy actually understand?  He may not appreciate the need to deal with his little brother.  He may want all the attention and be unhappy about his routine being disrupted.  Without knowing his "level" of understanding it's difficult to give advice.   I only had the 1 child so was never in your position.  However, my son would get upset and still does if someone takes up too much of my time when he thinks it's his time with me, altho he can put up with it for longer before he starts to get fed up!  Are there things your son likes doing by himself?  You cd have a picture board or daily timetable that showed when he had time for himself, say in his bedroom for a specific time.  If he understood this, then that cd be the time you spent with your younger one.  I know life isn't that simple as the needs and wants of young children aren't predictable.  Do you get any help from anywhere? What provision has the school made for your child's autism? Are you satisfied with what they've offered?  It's important that he has a school where they understand and can provide for his needs.  About your move.  Do you think this would upset your child?  My son never got upset with moving, but he was 9 when we 1st moved.  As long as he was well prepared in advance and he knew why.  That may prove difficult with a 4 yr old with autism.  If he can understand some things then he might take to having a bedroom by himself where he can do his own thing without being disturbed.  At the very least, 1 visit to your new home in advance of moving would be helpful, in my opinion.  I can't emphasise enough how much this advice  relies on him being able to at least understand some of it, whether verbally or with the aid of pictures.  I wd also be inclined to recreate his present bedroom in the new house so that when he moves and goes upstairs his bedroom is very familiar.  He could be involved in the move so he would understand how it had happened.  Wish I could be of more help.   bw.

hi - how much does your little boy actually understand?  He may not appreciate the need to deal with his little brother.  He may want all the attention and be unhappy about his routine being disrupted.  Without knowing his "level" of understanding it's difficult to give advice.   I only had the 1 child so was never in your position.  However, my son would get upset and still does if someone takes up too much of my time when he thinks it's his time with me, altho he can put up with it for longer before he starts to get fed up!  Are there things your son likes doing by himself?  You cd have a picture board or daily timetable that showed when he had time for himself, say in his bedroom for a specific time.  If he understood this, then that cd be the time you spent with your younger one.  I know life isn't that simple as the needs and wants of young children aren't predictable.  Do you get any help from anywhere? What provision has the school made for your child's autism? Are you satisfied with what they've offered?  It's important that he has a school where they understand and can provide for his needs.  About your move.  Do you think this would upset your child?  My son never got upset with moving, but he was 9 when we 1st moved.  As long as he was well prepared in advance and he knew why.  That may prove difficult with a 4 yr old with autism.  If he can understand some things then he might take to having a bedroom by himself where he can do his own thing without being disturbed.  At the very least, 1 visit to your new home in advance of moving would be helpful, in my opinion.  I can't emphasise enough how much this advice  relies on him being able to at least understand some of it, whether verbally or with the aid of pictures.  I wd also be inclined to recreate his present bedroom in the new house so that when he moves and goes upstairs his bedroom is very familiar.  He could be involved in the move so he would understand how it had happened.  Wish I could be of more help.   bw.