Does anyone else find it difficult to make decisions? It feels like the more mundane the choice the more difficulty I have. For example, if I want to buy a birthday card for my sister, I'll go to the shop and they'll be hundreds of options. So I'll narrow it down to something she'll like - cats for instance. But they'll still be 20 cards with cats on. I know that it doesn't matter which card I get. Its just the act of receiving a birthday card that matters. However I will stress over which is the "best" card, even though there is no wrong or right answer. What eventually happens is I get so stressed over choosing the right card I will just leave the shop without buying anything. I have indecision with a lot of things but it's definitely worse with decisions that have no consequences. It's almost as if my brain has to find the most logical correct solution and if there is no clear distinction between the options it just freezes.
Yes massively. I need all the information to make a decision. And I worry that I will make the wrong decision. I don't like it when my decision impacts on someone else and worry about being responsible for the decision.
I'm not too bad with "small" purchases....but things like TV, car, etc I spend months researching, making spreadsheets etc then still don't bother...my TV is about 18 years old!!
I know what you mean. I would really like to get some noise cancelling headphones as I think they would be a huge help to me. But I just can't decide which ones and they are very very expensive. So a year later, I still haven't bought any.
I'm awful with decisions! In terms of buying things I've spent so much time doing research about various potential purchases, and also quite often then don't bother because I can't make a decision. It's good to read that others are like that too. I'm very bad at making decisions about what to do in terms of how to plan my time too, or just in terms of deciding what to do generally.
Yes or at least I used to
That made me laugh out loud because that’s what I used to be like! Lol! I still do all the mad research and stuff - it feels vital, real and definitely important at the time - but I make my purchases much quicker as I’ve made a deal with myself, that I only buy it if I’m prepared to find I’m not happy with it or don’t really want it or whatever, because otherwise, I realised, I’d never buy anything! But they’re never based on the research! Lol! I’m still not really into stuff, and I’m in the process of a mass clear out, but as much as I’m not into stuff, it’s like I can’t let go of anything. I save tons of stuff, for ‘craft’ but my sister pointed out, I’ve never done a craft thing in my life, lol, but I might, I say!!!! I’ve hung on for years, to ridiculous stuff but I’ve broken the spell. I’m waiting for my son to bring me a fire bin and I’m gonna get going with a mass burn out!
I just bit the bullet and went for it. I decided that I would buy the ones which were the most comfortable and go for what I thought were amongst the best and just give them a try. I thought if they don’t make much difference, I’ll have a nice set of headphones and I’ll know that noise cancelling headphones don’t really help me. So I can look to something else. But honestly, so far, they’ve been a god send. I honestly never realised the extent of sensory overload until I put the headphones on. It’s like my world suddenly slowed down and it was like walking outside when it’s thick with snow. Everything became softer. And even when I don’t wear them, because I don’t want to wear them all the time, the noise seems more manageable.
I say go for it. You’ll never know until you try. And I doubt you’ll be on your death bed thinking, I just wish I never bought those headphones, they were such a mistake.
I found out, in burn out, that I actually didn’t know what to do about anything, starting with when I opened my eyes in a morning. That’s why I stayed in bed for so long. I literally didn’t know what to do so I didn’t do anything. For months, and then that turned into two years! But it was the best time of my life, so far! It was autistic heaven! :)
I find it really hard to make lots of decisions. I get very overwhelmed with choices and will over think of the rationale for each. I find it helpful to have someone else with me if I need to make a decision e.g. to buy something. If I am on my own it is just too stressful and I can't concentrate properly.
I find it really helpful to have someone else with me too. I was trying on some clothes the other day but had picked four different things to take into the changing room and immediately started to feel stressed and panicky as I knew I'd need to make a decision, and the shop was a long way from home so if I got home and felt I'd made the wrong decision I couldn't take things back, but thankfully I had my Mum with me who helped a lot.