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Can’t lie

Nancy

Hi

I posted a question yesterday for the first time and people on here have been so kind. Thankyou all.  I’m therefore asking another question of you lovely people.

I understand people on the spectrum say it how it is and can’t lie. If a person on the spectrum says something unkind I get that they don’t see it as unkind but if the person on the receiving end points out to them that they have hurt their feelings does the person on the spectrum understand what they have done once it’s explained to them?

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  • I suffer from a grossly overblown compulsion to 'do the right thing' so telling lies or making falsehoods falls under the heading of doing the wrong thing - so I simply can't do it.

    Unfortunately, telling the truth completely and accurately is something no-one wants to hear - they want the truth modified and sugared-up and filtered so it fits with their own narrative. NTs seem to be able to be naturally flexible with the truth and modify it for their target audience and to manipulate people.

    My accuracy and bluntness is seen as a real asset in an engineering and science environment and a total liability anywhere else. I cannot do diplomacy.

    I make a very good Riker or Mr Data character because my Captain can rely on my technical evaluations and opinions to be able to make big decisions.

    Unknown said:
    I do but I don’t care. I am only responsible for what I say, not for how it’s understood. That doesn’t mean I will say things to purposely hurt somebody and if somebody tells me that they are upset by something I’ve said, I’ll talk to them about it and I may even agree to not say it again. But ultimately, the hurt lies with the person hurting. It belongs to them, not me. 

    I totally agree with this.

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