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dealing with brother too

Ettie

My youngest son has just been diasgnosed with Aspergers alongside dyspraxia, adhd and sensory seeking. He's a gorgeous boys and we love him to bits but he does lash out at his brother. Our oldest son is only six and therefore has difficulty understanding why his brother does this to him with no provocation. We have bought 'My Brother is Different' to read to him but it doesn't really talk about a boy like ours who is very articulate and chatty. Can anyone recommend a story that might help our eldest son recognise and understand that his brother is different, special and needs our support?

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  • Hi Hope,

    Both of my sons are incredibly special to me, that goes without saying and the fact that I am trying to find books to help the oldest son comes to terms with it shows how much I want to support him as well. I know you said you don't want to cause offence, however, at a difficult time in our lives I was quite taken aback by your comments. I'm trying to do my best and as a teacher have used the word 'special' as a positive move to show how we are accomodating children with special needs in order to allow them reach their full potential, succeed and be happy. Whilst I agree we don't all have to get along - both my husband and I are incredibly cloe to our siblings and we hope for this relationship between our sons too because in times of crisis, having a strong family bond is amazing and something I cherish very much. We hope that our sons can have that strength of bond too and understanding and supporting each other is at the heart of developing this.

     

    I am sorry you found the term 'special' patronizing but I shall continue to call both my sons special because I mean it in a positive and loving way. If you do know of any useful books to help us at this time, we'd love to know, thank you.

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  • Hi Hope,

    Both of my sons are incredibly special to me, that goes without saying and the fact that I am trying to find books to help the oldest son comes to terms with it shows how much I want to support him as well. I know you said you don't want to cause offence, however, at a difficult time in our lives I was quite taken aback by your comments. I'm trying to do my best and as a teacher have used the word 'special' as a positive move to show how we are accomodating children with special needs in order to allow them reach their full potential, succeed and be happy. Whilst I agree we don't all have to get along - both my husband and I are incredibly cloe to our siblings and we hope for this relationship between our sons too because in times of crisis, having a strong family bond is amazing and something I cherish very much. We hope that our sons can have that strength of bond too and understanding and supporting each other is at the heart of developing this.

     

    I am sorry you found the term 'special' patronizing but I shall continue to call both my sons special because I mean it in a positive and loving way. If you do know of any useful books to help us at this time, we'd love to know, thank you.

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