I don't want to embarrass the perpetrators of the posts by name, there have been more than one, but at times their appear troll like posts on these forums.
Perhaps it is inadvertant, but asking for advice and then showing little respect for the replies that are made in good faith, name calling using unacceptable language, putting across a belief that one has and then insisting this belief is irrefutable despite what others have said and with no evidence, or criticising others for valid views seems to me the sort of thing a troll would do.
I don't know whether it is a 'road from Damascus' moment (the 'from' is deliberate as it seems to be that the eyes have been closed and not opened) but there has also been what appears to be a personality change at times. We are autistic, but this does not mean we cannot work things out and with proper respect views can be contrary to those of others. And sometimes there are members here with particular knowledge which is useful to others. But posting information to further a theory of doubtful basis is not what I believe this forum is for, and one should expect others to put the alternative view.
I know I wind people up at times, hopefully not too many times on this forum. But I do try to think about what I am saying, give information in good faith, accept other peoples contributions with good humour, and not spout rubbish.
But there does seem at times to be people here with nothing to add to a conversation but spout nonsense.
After another, simply delicious and ridiculously gorgeous, hazelnut chocolate spread sandwich. I have decided to come off this forum. At least for a while anyway. If not forever. Although that can’t be said. Because apart from the sun coming up in the morning and the power of love. There’s not much else we can rely on, to happen in the future. So who knows? Maybe this is the very last time I visit this site ♀️
I’m not conjuring up any kind of blame or anything like that. Nothing of the kind. I am simply well aware that some people sometimes get upset by some of the things I say and on a forum like this, there’s no a lot we can do about that.
Apart from, take out of the equation, the person who is seen as the person causing the upset. Which, in this case, is me.
I’m guessing this is true, that it’s me, who is believed to be the cause of some people feeling upset. And I’m guessing this, by the fact that my response to this conversation, remains unanswered.
I have also sensed a type of a bullying type thing going on, for want of a better expression. Like people are trying to prove that what I’m saying is wrong, or something. Not in, as if we’re having a conversation, but as if they’re really trying to prove me wrong. Like they actually believe there is a right and a wrong, in a simple conversation. I think I’m just talking, and people are actually seeming to believe me or something. I don’t know what’s happening but I’m chatting and people seem to want to prove that I’m some kind of liar or something. I’ve no idea what’s going on to be honest. But it doesn’t feel great to me. And that’s enough to tell me to bow out, gracefully, and with love.
If this is what’s happening. I have no place in such conversations. My intention is never to get into a ‘who’s right’ and ‘who’s wrong’ situation. In my understanding of the world, there is no right or wrong, in terms of what we say and do. There is either truth or the lack of the awareness of truth. Or, what we believe.
Anyway, when anything like this is happening, however I respond, I am seen as defending my world view and what I’ve said. And even if it’s not seen like that. That’s how it’s starting to feel like to me. Like I’m defending what I’ve said. And defence, in any situation, is the first act of war. And I’m all about unconditional love and peace. Not war. So I won’t get involved in war. There’s no truth in war.
So I will make my exist, without nothing but love and understanding. Because if my words, hurt, even one person. Then that’s one person too many. And I can’t express myself in any other way, than the way I do, if I’m being myself and I’m being honest. If I’m working with somebody in a work situation or somebody like that. That’s different. But I come here to enjoy friendships and information, identification and validation etc etc etc. And if that’s not happening. It would do nobody any good if I tried to force that. Love doesn’t force itself. Love is.
It’s been really great talking to you, as always, from my point of view. I’ve enjoyed myself and as always, I’ve learned a lot. I’m only just over one year post diagnosis, so I’m still learning new things about myself and I’m enjoying the journey.
This year hasn’t quiet got started for me yet! Lol! For all my talk and intentions! But the meeting today at REED was very encouraging. I was totally blunt, I was in a hyper mode, so of course. What did I do all day? Eat and drink nothing, but cappuccinos! It was all I could do to not go into full on Tourette’s mode in a totally unacceptable way, by anybodies standards, when I was in the reed waiting area. Thank god there was a young lad there, helping to keep me calm. Or at least under control.
The building is not suited to my needs. There are many things ‘not to my needs’, with regards to reed. But somehow at the end of our session. She got me. And she’s moving mountains for me.
By that, I mean she got us a private room, again. And she offered me, without me asking or mentioning it, a referral back to autism plus.
This is the thing about some nt’s. They seem to understand what I need, in order to take the next step. Even when I don’t know what I need. And it’s never what I think I need. Anyway, her plan has to be authorised by her manager, but she’s going to do her best.
I really quite like her. Now I’m getting used to her. She talks to herself. And I haven’t managed to ask her yet if she knows she does it. I’m really starting to like her. I like anybody with a quirk and she keeps the visits short. Just how I like them. She never runs over half an hour, which feels like a nano second to me. Whatever that is! Lol! It’s fair to say though, that the time goes quick and doesn’t drag on past my level of concentration etc.
So hopefully, I’ll be able to come out of, out of this whole, I’m in this whole, Christmas mode thing, preparing to come out of it etc etc and get my ass into gear and start taking the next step. So my focus will be needed elsewhere for a while anyway. So like divine intervention, it’s a good time for me to exit the site as it is for you wanting me to leave because quiet frankly, in some way, shape or form, I appear to be p*****g you off.
Much love to all of you. I’m grateful to all of you. You have all added to my life in some way, as always. I hope you all find the answers you’re looking for or you get whatever it is you want. You deserve it. We all deserve a love filled life, by the very fact that we were born X
BlueRay please don’t leave.
Your part of the family, misunderstandings have occurred,
Be you as everyone else is and should be, your words are not intended to cause hurt in any way, no one deliberately tries to upset,
Having spent fifty plus years not fitting, being denounced for all I believe, then coming here allows me to truly be me, still not always fully understood, but tolerance and understanding is always there, you are you, unique and have your own beliefs and what you believe is you, never allow anyone to tell you other wise, I want everyone to also know that you are fully allowed to be you, believe in yourself, be strong,
We can’t all be right or wrong , individualism.
Sorry Lone, I didn’t mean to sound so dramatic. Yes, I do feel like I need to take a bit of a break from this site but I won’t stay away forever ~ you are all far too precious to me for me to do that And you’re right, it’s just a matter of misunderstandings and not what I see in my mind as people hating me and wanting to get me off this site, again!
But as you, several others and the moderators on here, told me last time, I am welcome here despite my totally radical outlook on our beautiful, perfect and truly fabulous world ️
This is me, being all dramatic
Darling, you look wonderful, but I can’t see your boots! X
Oh the boots are off darling. I couldn't even bare to have the poor things near me, I felt so wretched
Darling... you must embrace the technique of putting party hats on monsters x
”A projective drawing technique, Dr. Crenshaw developed to address multiple fears, phobias, frightening dreams, nightmares, and PTSD symptoms in children is Party Hats on Monsters (Crenshaw, 2001). This technique was included in a review and recommended in �Fifteen Effective Play Therapy Techniques� (Hall, Kaduson, & Schaefer, 2002). This drawing strategy draws on both learning theory principles of titrated exposure to the feared stimulus and gradual desensitization as well as embedded suggestion based on the work of Milton Erickson that was later applied to children by Joyce Mills and Richard Crowley (1986). By the very act of trying to reproduce on paper the frightening image and discovering that no matter how hard they try they are unable to make it as scary as the image in their mind, they discover the power of defusing the fear by putting it out on paper and getting it out of their head. The embedded suggestions reinforce this notion by stating, for example, �It is very interesting what children discover when they put the scary monster out here on paper. They find it very hard to make it as scary as the picture in their head and they realize this monster is not as scary as they thought when they look at it in the light of the day.
Also when you change the monster, shrink him, or put a party hat on him, he is no longer scary at all. The most amazing thing that children discover is that when they change the image out here on paper they can also change the scary image in their head”
That’s an excellent technique. I’m totally all for getting our thoughts and images down on paper. This is a really great technique for kids though. I hope I remember it. I might cut n paste it and keep coming back to it.
And don’t worry, I think, I might, well, I may, go to church today, or if coyrse I may not, but if I do, my baby boots will go with me ;)