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"It's like you are just a spectator in this thing": experiencing social life the 'Aspie' way

Martian Tom
over 5 years ago

I found this article on a routine Google search using the search term 'Autism and anomie'.

It's ten years old now and may be a bit dated.  It also, perhaps, doesn't really tell us anything we don't already know.  It's 'academic', I'm afraid, so has the usual jargon.

Worth a read, though...

"It's like you are just a spectator in this thing"

I'd be interested to hear opinions...

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  • over 5 years ago

    Interesting, I thought, to read of our experiences from more of a sociological than a psychological perspective. 

    I was especially interested when it came to the interviews with couples, one of whom was NT and the other ND, and the lack of emotional reciprocity that was often found.  One Aspie man was told by a marriage guidance counsellor that he should consider his wife's feelings more.  He replied that he would - but he didn't always understand what they were, even when she explained them.  Quite!

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Martian Tom

    Fascinating article, thanks for sharing. It led me on to this, which I think you might find interesting too: 

    ‘FILLING IN THE GAPS’: A MICRO-SOCIOLOGICAL ANALYSIS OF AUTISM by Damian E M Milton 

    www.larry-arnold.net/.../pdf

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Sunflower

    Oh gosh!  I can't believe this.

    I actually used the email address on the article to write to her to talk about the 'safe spaces' issue, and how computers (often seen as safe for Aspies because they eliminate the need for face-to-face and proper social interaction) aren't quite as 'safe' as they used to be.  I used my example of the work colleague to make the point.  Cyber-bullying, too.

    I then went to the Oxford University site to look her up.  And she's the mother of Connor Sparrowhawk.

    I can't believe it.

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Sunflower

    Oh gosh!  I can't believe this.

    I actually used the email address on the article to write to her to talk about the 'safe spaces' issue, and how computers (often seen as safe for Aspies because they eliminate the need for face-to-face and proper social interaction) aren't quite as 'safe' as they used to be.  I used my example of the work colleague to make the point.  Cyber-bullying, too.

    I then went to the Oxford University site to look her up.  And she's the mother of Connor Sparrowhawk.

    I can't believe it.

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Martian Tom

    Sara Ryan is amazing - I have been following her on twitter for some time. In the back of my mind I knew she was linked with Oxford Uni but I still didn't connect her with this article. How great that you got in touch with her. She battled fearlessly to get justice for LB (Connor) and is carrying on the fight for others.