Published on 12, July, 2020
So I'll get told things like "That's not autism. Everyone gets anxiety" - even though autistic anxiety starts at a point where most other people's has already peaked.
Autistica presented research supporting that (cortisol levels are higher even though outer anxiety might appear similar). Caroline Hearst at https://www.autismmatters.org.uk/blog/were-all-part-of-the-human-constellation-but-are-we-all-part-of-the-autism-constellation puts it like:
Typically the largest part of social communication is non-verbal - autistic people do not understand this communication. We just do not have the neurological equipment to decode and deal with social situations in a typical way; we fear entering territory that often proves treacherous for us. Comparing ordinary anxiety about social situations to autistic social anxiety is like comparing my concern about swimming across a river (I am a good swimmer) to that of a poor swimmer or non-swimmer needing to cross the same river. We are facing the same situation but our ability to deal with it is vastly different. I might be anxious because of the currents and the fact I don’t know this particular river, I might not make it because of conditions beyond my control; but I do have the skills to cross given reasonable conditions and a history of successful river crossings. However, a non-swimmer without outside help is likely to drown regardless of the conditions – they don’t have the equipment for the task. Their anxiety is of a different order of magnitude to my anxiety, their anxiety is grounded in the likelihood of a bad outcome, whereas my anxiety is priming me to be careful and achieve the best possible outcome.