Age gap relationship and friendship

Hello I wanted to ask whether age gap relationships and friendships are actually ok if both people are 18 and over and if they are both happy and not bothered about the age difference. Also I ask this because I am thinking about finding some older friends and an older boyfriend as I am now 20 years of age and I need some advice please?

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  • It is a matter for you really. Certainly it’s legal. I would just advise you to be careful (as ever when entering into a relationship), especially as some unscrupulous individuals may see it as easier to take advantage of a young woman.

    Also, think about what you want moving forwards in life. For example, for me I know that I would like to have children if I end up in the right relationship, therefore I would think about how age differences might affect this and any other plans you may have as you grow older. Basically, make sure that despite the age gap you will be on the same page as time goes on.

    But to be transparent, I have never been in a relationship (I am in my early 20s), so this is just my opinion.

    Older friends are just fine - I have lots of older people I mix with (though I wouldn’t exactly describe them as ‘friends’).

  • As an older gay man myself, when I was younger, after I came out in my teens, I was not able to spot if guys on the scene (or outside of it) was “taking advantage” back in the day, where there was a lot of it about, where I was very vulnerable to the attentions of gorgeous older guys, but now in the internet age, the stakes are far higher - young gay guys these days are far more “savvy” so at my age, I’m far more vulnerable to attentions of some 20 something hot hunk who is after whatever money he thinks I have because of my age - it’s one reason why I won’t do online gay dating sites or apps like Grindr or Scruff as it’s far too dangerous with all the weirdos around and there are people, even in this day and age who are still very homophobic - it would be nice to meet some 20 year old hottie who is a prince but you just don’t know how truthful they are, gay guys lie about their age and their wealth and they lie all the time on their profiles and they could be into some strange stuff that your not into (that they have not told you about beforehand) - I can honestly say that I’ve never lied on a gay dating website profile or an app, yet all I’ve found are time wasters who are only into the hookup culture 

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  • As an older gay man myself, when I was younger, after I came out in my teens, I was not able to spot if guys on the scene (or outside of it) was “taking advantage” back in the day, where there was a lot of it about, where I was very vulnerable to the attentions of gorgeous older guys, but now in the internet age, the stakes are far higher - young gay guys these days are far more “savvy” so at my age, I’m far more vulnerable to attentions of some 20 something hot hunk who is after whatever money he thinks I have because of my age - it’s one reason why I won’t do online gay dating sites or apps like Grindr or Scruff as it’s far too dangerous with all the weirdos around and there are people, even in this day and age who are still very homophobic - it would be nice to meet some 20 year old hottie who is a prince but you just don’t know how truthful they are, gay guys lie about their age and their wealth and they lie all the time on their profiles and they could be into some strange stuff that your not into (that they have not told you about beforehand) - I can honestly say that I’ve never lied on a gay dating website profile or an app, yet all I’ve found are time wasters who are only into the hookup culture 

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