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Age gap relationship and friendship

Sholay09

Hello I wanted to ask whether age gap relationships and friendships are actually ok if both people are 18 and over and if they are both happy and not bothered about the age difference. Also I ask this because I am thinking about finding some older friends and an older boyfriend as I am now 20 years of age and I need some advice please?

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  • I didn’t find out I’m autistic until 35, but did in fact date older men. I actually advise against it. Any 30-40 year old man who wants to date a 20 year old is suspect. However, I will say that friendships can definitely be valuable no matter what the age. I tend to get along with older women and younger men (maybe because they tend to be more feminist and free thinking.). Now that I’m nearing 40, I’d prefer dating men my own age but they are dating 20 year olds, so I’ve been dating younger men (over 25).  I see no problem with it. I am very active and have certain interests so it’s already challenging to find someone with mutual attraction. And again, men my age are usually married or ageist/misogynist. So is neurodivergent people usually already have slim pickings. I also happen to be very picky about people (not attracted to 80% of people). I also have an aversion to dating old dudes. I think because I was naive and used by older men when I was younger that I just am not attracted to them anymore. 

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  • I didn’t find out I’m autistic until 35, but did in fact date older men. I actually advise against it. Any 30-40 year old man who wants to date a 20 year old is suspect. However, I will say that friendships can definitely be valuable no matter what the age. I tend to get along with older women and younger men (maybe because they tend to be more feminist and free thinking.). Now that I’m nearing 40, I’d prefer dating men my own age but they are dating 20 year olds, so I’ve been dating younger men (over 25).  I see no problem with it. I am very active and have certain interests so it’s already challenging to find someone with mutual attraction. And again, men my age are usually married or ageist/misogynist. So is neurodivergent people usually already have slim pickings. I also happen to be very picky about people (not attracted to 80% of people). I also have an aversion to dating old dudes. I think because I was naive and used by older men when I was younger that I just am not attracted to them anymore. 

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