Crying all day

Skye - I don't know what just happened - I type a long reply with ideas to try and the damn thing just disappeared - Grrr!! 

When our 4 year old son is crying or upset and the volume is so high that I can't her myself talking to him, I either sit him on my knee or kneel next to him and sing softly! He eventually slows down to listen to the noise I'm making and then forgets he was upset in the first place. It may be worth a try.

Another thing we used to do when he was very little is play a 'constant' noise - in our case the oven extractor fan (wierd I know - but it worked for us).

Also, two weeks ago our son got a virus - we had no warning of it - no temp, no going off his food - nothing - the only sign was that he was very 'sensitive' in that if something upset him, he cried (where usually he is easily distracted). 3 days later we had the Dr in because (like your little girl) he couldn't tell us what was wrong but he so obviously became ill. So please don't rule out something like that yet. My husband got the virus too and said he felt achey and tired and if Jack had felt the same there's no wonder he was getting upset with himself!

Unfortunately, it's a long process of elimination and I wish you both so much luck.

Just another suggestion - can you and your husband take 'shifts' to look after your little girl - just so one of you can leave the room or the house and have time out to clear your head then vice versa?

Does your little girl like her own space - it may be she's feeling a bit 'crowded' by the attention her crying and upset is getting her - it sounds harsh, so I'm sorry - it's only that Jack has always needed his own 'time out' and we now recognise this and don't always follow him if he leaves the room we're in - hard when they're upset but may be worth a consideration - as long as you know she can't come to any harm.

Just wish you lots of luck and strength. You'll get through this, it just seems like forever at the moment. Big hugs to you all. xxx

Skye - I don't know what just happened - I type a long reply with ideas to try and the damn thing just disappeared - Grrr!! 

When our 4 year old son is crying or upset and the volume is so high that I can't her myself talking to him, I either sit him on my knee or kneel next to him and sing softly! He eventually slows down to listen to the noise I'm making and then forgets he was upset in the first place. It may be worth a try.

Another thing we used to do when he was very little is play a 'constant' noise - in our case the oven extractor fan (wierd I know - but it worked for us).

Also, two weeks ago our son got a virus - we had no warning of it - no temp, no going off his food - nothing - the only sign was that he was very 'sensitive' in that if something upset him, he cried (where usually he is easily distracted). 3 days later we had the Dr in because (like your little girl) he couldn't tell us what was wrong but he so obviously became ill. So please don't rule out something like that yet. My husband got the virus too and said he felt achey and tired and if Jack had felt the same there's no wonder he was getting upset with himself!

Unfortunately, it's a long process of elimination and I wish you both so much luck.

Just another suggestion - can you and your husband take 'shifts' to look after your little girl - just so one of you can leave the room or the house and have time out to clear your head then vice versa?

Does your little girl like her own space - it may be she's feeling a bit 'crowded' by the attention her crying and upset is getting her - it sounds harsh, so I'm sorry - it's only that Jack has always needed his own 'time out' and we now recognise this and don't always follow him if he leaves the room we're in - hard when they're upset but may be worth a consideration - as long as you know she can't come to any harm.

Just wish you lots of luck and strength. You'll get through this, it just seems like forever at the moment. Big hugs to you all. xxx