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Crying all day

skye1971

hi all were beside ourselves my hubby and i we dont know what to do for the best our little girl keeps like crying all day but theres no tears and she is doing this from when she gets up in the morning till she goes to bed along with all the meltdowns aswell and we dont know what to do we feel like were going mad we really do we try to calm her down and everything but nothing works were totally exhausted the fact she cant talk or communicate dont help either i feel like ripping my hair out at the mintue were so beside ourselves we,ve tried everything and when you try to talk to her she doesnt undrestand she,s only 2.5 years old we dont know what to do please if help if anyone has got any advice for us before we totally go mad i would be very grateful

skye xxxx

  • thanks temple for that and susie thank you for your reply you have given some very good tips and advice hun which i will try she likes to play alone and go off on her own so i,m assuming thats her wanting her own space is it most of the day when she has been doing this crying all day theres been no tears there i dont understand it and the noise is deafing like you say you cant hear yourself talk never mind think its so hard but we will come through it with love and strength we all have i try not to get into a tizzy with it all but its hard espcially when you dont know what to do i try to stay so calm for her so i can try and help her we both do and your right it seems so long winded at the mintue

    big hugs back xxxx

  • Skye - I don't know what just happened - I type a long reply with ideas to try and the damn thing just disappeared - Grrr!! 

    When our 4 year old son is crying or upset and the volume is so high that I can't her myself talking to him, I either sit him on my knee or kneel next to him and sing softly! He eventually slows down to listen to the noise I'm making and then forgets he was upset in the first place. It may be worth a try.

    Another thing we used to do when he was very little is play a 'constant' noise - in our case the oven extractor fan (wierd I know - but it worked for us).

    Also, two weeks ago our son got a virus - we had no warning of it - no temp, no going off his food - nothing - the only sign was that he was very 'sensitive' in that if something upset him, he cried (where usually he is easily distracted). 3 days later we had the Dr in because (like your little girl) he couldn't tell us what was wrong but he so obviously became ill. So please don't rule out something like that yet. My husband got the virus too and said he felt achey and tired and if Jack had felt the same there's no wonder he was getting upset with himself!

    Unfortunately, it's a long process of elimination and I wish you both so much luck.

    Just another suggestion - can you and your husband take 'shifts' to look after your little girl - just so one of you can leave the room or the house and have time out to clear your head then vice versa?

    Does your little girl like her own space - it may be she's feeling a bit 'crowded' by the attention her crying and upset is getting her - it sounds harsh, so I'm sorry - it's only that Jack has always needed his own 'time out' and we now recognise this and don't always follow him if he leaves the room we're in - hard when they're upset but may be worth a consideration - as long as you know she can't come to any harm.

    Just wish you lots of luck and strength. You'll get through this, it just seems like forever at the moment. Big hugs to you all. xxx

  • it's bean quit warm these few days she might not like the heat i can't say i like the heat to much is well it might be a good idea to see if you can make it cooler for her you never know it might help things. 

  • hi scorpion no none of these things i,ve well checked her over and she has none of these yesterday she had meltdowns all day it was awful while we were out and at home she was like that from when she woke up till she went to bed were exhausted and dont know what to do i used to do nursing so i,ve checked out with all things like her temp etc maybe its just another bad day i dont know were still new to this my hubby and i were still learning about the autism xx

  • First things first, you need to calm down - you can't help her if you're in a tizzy yourself!

    Ok, now, have you checked whether she has a temperature? Does any part of her body feel hot or inflamed? Are any of her 'bodily functions' not normal?

    If the answer to any of these questions is 'yes' then you should take her to a doctor.

    I'm not saying that becuase I think there definitely is some medical issue that causing her to cry, just that if she's non-verbal you need to rule out anything medical first, just in case.

    Now, assuming, you've ruled out the medical, you need to ask yourself, what's different about today? Has something changed? A new sound? A new sight? A different washing up powder? Has your husband hand a shave, when he usually has a beard? Are you wearing a different perfume?

    It could be anything!