Loss of a Parent

Hi, I'm a 28-year-old woman, and I've recently lost my mother.

My mum was always my main carer, and I'm finding it difficult to adjust to life without her. I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience of losing a family member, especially a parent, and how they've coped with it.

This is my first time writing a forum post, and I'm feeling quite nervous about putting myself out there.

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LateToTheAlphaQuadrant 22 days ago

Hi Stardustwolf, and welcome to the forum. It's nice to meet you. I am a 52 year old woman.

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mum 3 years ago this December. For all her faults, she was also my 'go-to,' person when I had bad anxiety and panic attacks. I still haven't found a substitute for that so try and avoid triggers as much as possible.

I'm sorry to tell you but it really does take time. I think I spent the first year on my laptop online fom the moment I got up to when I went to bed as a distraction. I also called a few helplines and have just Googled Cruse for you, https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-support/helpline/ That page had their number and opening times. I have also Googled Mind and they have this guide, https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/support-and-self-care/

Again, I am sorry you are going through what you are going through and I really wish you all the best.
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LateToTheAlphaQuadrant 22 days ago

Hi Stardustwolf, and welcome to the forum. It's nice to meet you. I am a 52 year old woman.

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mum 3 years ago this December. For all her faults, she was also my 'go-to,' person when I had bad anxiety and panic attacks. I still haven't found a substitute for that so try and avoid triggers as much as possible.

I'm sorry to tell you but it really does take time. I think I spent the first year on my laptop online fom the moment I got up to when I went to bed as a distraction. I also called a few helplines and have just Googled Cruse for you, https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-support/helpline/ That page had their number and opening times. I have also Googled Mind and they have this guide, https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/bereavement/support-and-self-care/

Again, I am sorry you are going through what you are going through and I really wish you all the best.
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stardustwolf 22 days ago in reply to LateToTheAlphaQuadrant

Hi LateToTheAlphaQuadrant ,

Thank you for your reply, and I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother too. Your message has been a comfort to me, and I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and advice.

My bereavement counsellor has also explained that grief takes time and that I may experience different emotions as I work through my loss. I will certainly look into the support organisations you mentioned.

Thank you once again for your kindness and support.
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