Tricky situation...

Hi. I was wondering if anyone had any experiences with an undiagnosed autistic partner who reacted in an extreme way to the suggestion that neuro-diversity could be the source of relationship problems.

And I do mean extreme. As in life changing extreme.

And by neuro-diversity in this case I mean two quite different iterations of autism itself, rather than ASD-NT. But would be glad to hear anyone's experience.

I'm not officially diagnosed but it has been strongly suggested that I am autistic by a psychiatrist and CPN. I would tend to agree, as it makes sense of my life. In every way.

I'm currently on sick leave and experiencing what I imagine is quite a severe autistic burnout and depression.

So far it's been helpful to read here that other people are experiencing similar difficulties and still have hope for themselves and support from other people.

The local CMHT has been a source of support to me, mainly owing to my having a wonderful CPN. They do exist!

Thanks for reading.

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  • Hi and welcome!

    I'd love to help but Im afraid I don't understand your sitaution. Are you the undiagnosed partner? What is "two quite different iterations of autism"? Do you mean that you and your partner are both autiustic but in different ways? Or at different levels of support needs?

    I'm afraid I don't understand what "life-changing" reation is within a relationship. Has your partner threateneed you with physical voilence? If so, it might be wisest to leave the house. Or if you mean the end of the relationship, what is your main concern - the loss of your partner?

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  • Hi and welcome!

    I'd love to help but Im afraid I don't understand your sitaution. Are you the undiagnosed partner? What is "two quite different iterations of autism"? Do you mean that you and your partner are both autiustic but in different ways? Or at different levels of support needs?

    I'm afraid I don't understand what "life-changing" reation is within a relationship. Has your partner threateneed you with physical voilence? If so, it might be wisest to leave the house. Or if you mean the end of the relationship, what is your main concern - the loss of your partner?

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