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The "what if" kicked in

Alien0n3arth

It's around one month to my assessment and the "what if" kicked in. I don't care much about diagnosis,  but I can't imagine myself not belonging here. This online community has done great at improving my mental health. I can't imagine how much I would cry if it turns out, this place is not for me, because I'm not autistic. 

Otherwise I need a doctor to state on a paper, why I shouldn't drive a car (pushing at work because my manager resigned)

I constantly have problems processing information and people often get annoyed or somehow worried about me reacting with delay.

I collected as much documentation as possible.  I was going to request a copy of one examination that was done 18 years ago,  they keep it up to 20 years after the examination. Then they destroy it. The problem is that I don't remember exactly what was the name of this examination,  date, I only know in which clinic and can only write the year. Tge only person, who could help me with the information is my mom, but I wouldn't trust her words because she lies and gaslight a lot. I already found examples of her twisting everything. 

I'm sorry for this rant. Maybe i dont deserve the privilege of belonging here. My little friends helped me calm down a little. 

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  • would it really matter if you did or you didnt a diagnosis is just a piece of paper , if they said you weren't but you had so much lived experience to say you felt compley different would you actually care about their take,

    at the end of the day is a condition that you live with in every moment of your life in all the worst ways, its not a Buch of check boxes you pick so you can show off to everyone for attention, you know if you do or you dont have it, the diagnosis is just confirming somthing you already knew or you wouldnt have gone for the diagnosis in the first place.

    and tbh if your worried they do give these out to everyone now , so if you do want it if you have any symptoms you will receive it tbh so you will be fine.

  • in reply to citroen71

    If everyone can get the diagnosis just because of having some traits then it's bad. Then Uta Frith is right.

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth
    Alien0n3arth said:
    If everyone can get the diagnosis just because of having some traits then it's bad

    I'm sorry, but I politely disagree. For example, my friend scores as borderline on the AQ test and has some autistic traits. She has some sensory sensitivities which cause her distress in the office where she works, which her employer will not do anything about. If she had an autism diagnosis she could claim that she needed adjustments due to a disability - this would make her life better and wouldn't hurt anyone else.

    In the UK most autistic adults get no support after diagnosis, but most employers should be able to make adjustments to help autistic employees. Actually, I feel that all employers should try to adapt to the needs of their employees, autistic or not, but in most cases you need a formal diagnosis for this to happen, just as you do to get the letter saying you don't need to drive as part of your job. So I cannot see anything "bad" about being diagnosed because of having some traits.

  • in reply to profdanger

    Ok, sorry I misunderstood,  now I get what you mean by borderline case.

    I'm absolutely sure that I do have some condition that affects my whole life, so if it's not autism, then I want to know, what and I'm gonna ask the diagnostician. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Ah! I think I may have explained myself incorrectly. “Borderline” is probably not the best term for me to use, since that could be easily misinterpreted as referencing BPD. I was meaning to say that I was diagnosed as being between Autistic and not Autistic. I was on the border of that.

    So my advice is that if the assessor states that you are just barely qualifying for being Autistic, you could suggest that they lean more towards not giving you the diagnosis in that case.

    You are absolutely correct though, BPD and Autism can be comorbid. You are also correct that it seems like there is a weird tendency for diagnosticians to diagnose one or the other (I find that especially interesting that it seems to be a trend with women in particular…)

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Ah! I think I may have explained myself incorrectly. “Borderline” is probably not the best term for me to use, since that could be easily misinterpreted as referencing BPD. I was meaning to say that I was diagnosed as being between Autistic and not Autistic. I was on the border of that.

    So my advice is that if the assessor states that you are just barely qualifying for being Autistic, you could suggest that they lean more towards not giving you the diagnosis in that case.

    You are absolutely correct though, BPD and Autism can be comorbid. You are also correct that it seems like there is a weird tendency for diagnosticians to diagnose one or the other (I find that especially interesting that it seems to be a trend with women in particular…)

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