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ALM

Hi 

For the past 8 months I've been in a very toxic workplace that didn't support my neurodiversity. 

I left the organisation and boldly decided that I wanted to hold them accountable for the discrimination. 

We are trying to negotiate ahead of a possible employment tribunal. 

It's soooooo awful and distressing. 

Does anyone have any tips of how to negotiate this awful time and how to look after yourself. 

It's so unjust and unfair. I'm really struggling with that element also. 

Any suggestions greatly appreciated 

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  • ALM said:
    Does anyone have any tips of how to negotiate this awful time and how to look after yourself. 

    Using an experienced employment lawyer is a good choice and a route I have used several times to considerable success.

    You may want to try to find one with a specialisation in disability discrimination but these seem to be fewer.

    For your personal wellbeing I would recommend working with a psychotherapist who has experience in helping autists as they can teach you great techniques for coping.

    Good luck with the case - if they are already negotiating then this is a good sign in my experience. Don't get too greedy would also be my advice. If you want to make them suffer then I have seen way too many cases fail in court due to lack of damning evidence or a judge who didn't really understand the disability discrimination that autists face (since we seem normal to them).

    Of course this isn't legal advice, only my experience so don't act on it please. Make your own research and do what you feel is right.

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  • ALM said:
    Does anyone have any tips of how to negotiate this awful time and how to look after yourself. 

    Using an experienced employment lawyer is a good choice and a route I have used several times to considerable success.

    You may want to try to find one with a specialisation in disability discrimination but these seem to be fewer.

    For your personal wellbeing I would recommend working with a psychotherapist who has experience in helping autists as they can teach you great techniques for coping.

    Good luck with the case - if they are already negotiating then this is a good sign in my experience. Don't get too greedy would also be my advice. If you want to make them suffer then I have seen way too many cases fail in court due to lack of damning evidence or a judge who didn't really understand the disability discrimination that autists face (since we seem normal to them).

    Of course this isn't legal advice, only my experience so don't act on it please. Make your own research and do what you feel is right.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Thanks for your response. 

    It's very practical and I appreciate that. 

    I'm with an employment solicitor. It was so challenging to find the right solicitor. Lots using AI now. Very difficult, as I have so many questions. Notwithstanding figuring out what fees are for which piece of work/consultation/meeting. 

    It's difficult to quantify a settlement amount as they'll never understand the devastating impact on my mental health. Difficult not to ask for something that significantly covers injury to feelings. 

    You mentioned you've used a Employment Solicitor to much success previously. Was it for discrimination? Any advice based on your experience of this process? 

    It's good to hear other people's experiences to understand how it all works. 

    Have to do it again due to a mould issue in a flat I rented.