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shannon_04

hi, idk what to even say but i’m so desperate for some form of help. i think im autistic. im waiting on an assessment atm but that’ll be a lifetime. i got diagnosed with bpd which i disagree with. i’ve begged for help. autism ni were useless, told me to phone the autism service where i live to see where i am on the list then told me i can’t have help after i said everytime i call it tells me try again later. i give up trying to call as it’s pointless anyways, im just gonna be told i still have 5+ years to wait. autism ni have since ignored me. i then emailed autism initiatives and they said they can’t help as i don’t have a diagnosis then gave me a list of places to contact, all of them apart from one which was autism ni were for people under 18 which was great as i am in fact 22 (which they did know) so it was a list of useless places because of my age. im just lost. idk what to do. 

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  • Hello. This is kind of the problem with being an adult, help is limited.

    Things can seem overwhelming, especially so when when you are not sure of your own position. And even more so if you think about it and get sucked into negative thoughts about how it all seems too much.

    I would try to look at the things you are struggling with and write them down. This stops it being a cloud of competing thoughts in you head swirling round and gives you some specific items. 

    You don't need to be formally diagnosed to make changes. You can live as if you were diagnosed now. So remove some of the internal pressure, allow more alone time, don't feel guilty for resting, don't compare yourself to other people.

    Pick a practical issue and break it down into simple steps. Then think of what you could do to make it a bit easier.

    All the little changes add up.

    Try not to do too many things at one time. Try not to put everything off as it builds pressure. Try to do things in the morning, and when you are calm. It is easier. Don't be scared to ask other people for help, if there is something they can help with 

    I know this doesn't sound much. I was sceptical, but after a short while it will start to make a difference.

    Try to find someone you trust to talk to.

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  • Hello. This is kind of the problem with being an adult, help is limited.

    Things can seem overwhelming, especially so when when you are not sure of your own position. And even more so if you think about it and get sucked into negative thoughts about how it all seems too much.

    I would try to look at the things you are struggling with and write them down. This stops it being a cloud of competing thoughts in you head swirling round and gives you some specific items. 

    You don't need to be formally diagnosed to make changes. You can live as if you were diagnosed now. So remove some of the internal pressure, allow more alone time, don't feel guilty for resting, don't compare yourself to other people.

    Pick a practical issue and break it down into simple steps. Then think of what you could do to make it a bit easier.

    All the little changes add up.

    Try not to do too many things at one time. Try not to put everything off as it builds pressure. Try to do things in the morning, and when you are calm. It is easier. Don't be scared to ask other people for help, if there is something they can help with 

    I know this doesn't sound much. I was sceptical, but after a short while it will start to make a difference.

    Try to find someone you trust to talk to.

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