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Feeling of not doing enough

Anselm

Hi all,

I’m Anselm, new to the community, and currently living in SE of England. Since my late teens and early adulthood (I’m nearly 40 yo) I’ve been often wondering why I feel a bit strange, different from my friends and colleagues. Some time ago someone commented that I have autism. I decided to read some articles about it and although never diagnosed with it, I thought it must be it.

I’m often struggling to be interested in anything and I constantly feel like I haven’t done enough. Even though I go to work for 8 hrs and follow my daily routines religiously always having something to do after work, still in the end of the day I feel like I haven’t done enough. I also find very difficult to relax, I don’t know how to relax, I feel like I must be performing and accomplishing all the time. What makes it worse is the thing that I don’t know what to do in life. I don’t know if this is something to do with autism or is it some other type mental health issue? Does anyone else feel this way? And how do you cope with it? Thanks

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  • Hi Anselm

     

    Your description of that “not doing enough” feeling resonates strongly with me.  Through psychological interventions Im clear that in my case this is a result of my upbringing, the words used by my parents, the sense I could never be good enough. So I studied hard, worked hard after uni, tried tirelessly to be a good employee, spouse, friend. But it was never enough for people.

    Ultimately I was diagnosed with c-ptsd and it was the emotional stuff which led to this which also caused me to feel as you describe. Im 68, been in and out of the psych system since 1992 and I have that feeling. Its an intrusive set of thoughts, I personify it as a barking orders bulldog, what Im doing then is nurturing my inner kitten, she is kind and non judgmental, hopefully in time the bulldog will expire!

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  • Hi Anselm

     

    Your description of that “not doing enough” feeling resonates strongly with me.  Through psychological interventions Im clear that in my case this is a result of my upbringing, the words used by my parents, the sense I could never be good enough. So I studied hard, worked hard after uni, tried tirelessly to be a good employee, spouse, friend. But it was never enough for people.

    Ultimately I was diagnosed with c-ptsd and it was the emotional stuff which led to this which also caused me to feel as you describe. Im 68, been in and out of the psych system since 1992 and I have that feeling. Its an intrusive set of thoughts, I personify it as a barking orders bulldog, what Im doing then is nurturing my inner kitten, she is kind and non judgmental, hopefully in time the bulldog will expire!

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