How to help impatience

Hi Bridalwhistle 

Happy I speak as one who is doing OK - thanks for asking (hehe or no messed up than usual!)

To respond and hope this helps:

As I understand it the "window of tolerance" for stressors may be smaller for an autistic person c/w a neurotypical person.  Dependent somewhat on what the individual "spiky profile" of the individual concerned and what aspect of life may be impinging on the profile's capacity.  Exploring where that inmpingement may lie could be something to help explain the experiences you are having Bridalwhistle .

Speaking personally finding that impinging issue can be problematic as since one may be so accustomed to "masking" in neurotypical society one can also "mask" issues from oneself.   Especially since there can be a "deeper" acknowledgement of a problem that circumstances conspire to mean that one can find it very difficult to consciously acknowledge the problem.  E.g. in my case I was being bullied and victimised at work and yet I had to continue working for very practical reasons of self and family support.  And yes, it was a foreshadowing of burnout.  (speaking as one who knows...)

It might be useful to obtain a "third person" perspective on the stressors in your life - a trusted individual, or a diary that one may review, or at the risk of being a bit "wacky" i personally have used a "divination" tool (in my case i use/d the i ching) to get another perspective on how to see what was happening to me (disclaimer!!! do so with a healthy awareness that when stressed one may "clutch at straws"!!!) Or increasingly these days people are able to explore with professional psycho/social support and maybe even explore the subject with a good old fashioned bit of research in books/information technology or even AI (again the necessary disclaimer...)

Speaking personally the thing I am most challenged by as an autistic person is cause and effect in relationship to social communication issues - maybe start there and see if anything jumps out at you?

Best wishes.

Phased

Hi Bridalwhistle 

Happy I speak as one who is doing OK - thanks for asking (hehe or no messed up than usual!)

To respond and hope this helps:

As I understand it the "window of tolerance" for stressors may be smaller for an autistic person c/w a neurotypical person.  Dependent somewhat on what the individual "spiky profile" of the individual concerned and what aspect of life may be impinging on the profile's capacity.  Exploring where that inmpingement may lie could be something to help explain the experiences you are having Bridalwhistle .

Speaking personally finding that impinging issue can be problematic as since one may be so accustomed to "masking" in neurotypical society one can also "mask" issues from oneself.   Especially since there can be a "deeper" acknowledgement of a problem that circumstances conspire to mean that one can find it very difficult to consciously acknowledge the problem.  E.g. in my case I was being bullied and victimised at work and yet I had to continue working for very practical reasons of self and family support.  And yes, it was a foreshadowing of burnout.  (speaking as one who knows...)

It might be useful to obtain a "third person" perspective on the stressors in your life - a trusted individual, or a diary that one may review, or at the risk of being a bit "wacky" i personally have used a "divination" tool (in my case i use/d the i ching) to get another perspective on how to see what was happening to me (disclaimer!!! do so with a healthy awareness that when stressed one may "clutch at straws"!!!) Or increasingly these days people are able to explore with professional psycho/social support and maybe even explore the subject with a good old fashioned bit of research in books/information technology or even AI (again the necessary disclaimer...)

Speaking personally the thing I am most challenged by as an autistic person is cause and effect in relationship to social communication issues - maybe start there and see if anything jumps out at you?

Best wishes.

Phased