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Anxiety about imminent holiday

Alice-nice-Alice

Hi everyone 

We are going on holiday next week and my anxiety about it is accelerating. I used to be such a good traveller but nowadays the preparation, worrying about how to take all my things I need to deal with sensory and health problems, the uncertainty about the hotel, parking, and just being away from our home feels like its going to crush me. I know my wife needs this holiday and I want to do this for her, and will, but it will be so very difficult. We have cancelled two european holidays in the last twelve months primarily due to my anxiety around travelling and as I said, being away from all my safety things and spaces, and our cats, and my library. 

Im not particularly asking for advice, Ive done all the cbt, grounding, breathing stuff time and over et and cet. I just always struggle with these trips now and given at the moment we are in the final phases of selling my house it will probably be a most stressful time. 

Thanks for reading this

Alice

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  • I'm the same, I get really freaked out, will I be able to find things I can eat, will the animals be alright, what if I run out of reading material, all sorts of stuff, crowds most of all.

    I realised some time ago that what I want is a holiday at home, to be at home alone.

     I can see a lot of the cultural stuff I enjoy better on tv I get a better view and an expert to talk me through what we're looking at, I'm not a beach person, I swim like a brick and I'm allergic to pools.

    Travel is no longer fun, it takes ages to get anywhere, roads are crowded, airports horrible and trains not much better.

    I think moving house is stressful enough, I've done it far to many times, and to add a holiday on top, sounds like a recipe for a nervous breakdown!

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thanks CW. Today is going badly, as I feared it would. Of course people who don’t have my life experiences bang on telling me it will all be ok, thats its not black (bad) or white (good), that Im just catastrophising. .  But my life has taught me that 90% of the time the darkness wins. I can’t explain as losing touch with reality through dissociation, but thanks ever so for replying 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thanks CW. Today is going badly, as I feared it would. Of course people who don’t have my life experiences bang on telling me it will all be ok, thats its not black (bad) or white (good), that Im just catastrophising. .  But my life has taught me that 90% of the time the darkness wins. I can’t explain as losing touch with reality through dissociation, but thanks ever so for replying 

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  • in reply to Alice-nice-Alice

    Some people love travelling and just don't get it that others of us don't, being told that it will all be ok, is patronising and infantilising, you can do everything you can to make plans, but that dosent' mean that there are things you can't control, like the weather, transport breaking down. I think the worst question anyone has ever asked me is 'what would it be like if it all went well?', they don't like my answer, of 'a bl00dy big relief'.

    Has your house sold yet? If not then maybe think about changing agents?