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Late Audhd diagnosis and big feelings!

Veb

So I finally pushed myself to get the assessments for adhd and autism that were recommended to me years previously. I felt validation and relief to learn I was diagnosed combined adhd (because I heavily resonated with, and experienced, all the traits).

I expected the adhd diagnosis. I didn't expect the autistic diagnosis to confirm I'm autistic too... and I'm feeling a lot of big feelings about it. Logically it makes sense when I go over the traits and behaviours (and the contrasting experience of AuDHD), but I'd spent so long focused on the adhd side of my experience that autism was always something others had... not me, so I'm struggling to align my sense of self with it being part of who I am. 

Feeling confused and emotional. Anyone else feel this, or have any suggestions how to work through the big feelings and gain some self acceptance?

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  • In exactly the same boat. I’m still very uncertain what this means first me and what to do about it. What do I change? My career and life in general has already been damaged due to my behaviour challenges and difficulties. It’s still difficult to see this as positive. I didn’t expect to be thinking about it this way if I’m honest. I thought it would give relearn and explanation. I would and still do chastise myself for laziness and being an awkward, bordering on nasty, person.

    hope fully things will change and I hope you do see your diagnosis as positive but I mention how I feel to say there can be a wide range of emotions following diagnosis from my reading and my own experience.

    be kind to yourself

  • in reply to goesbysteve

    Thank you. I don't like knowing people are struggling, but it's comforting to know my experience (and a wide range of emotions) is more common than I expected. 

    I'm not very good at being kind to myself, but I'm trying... and I hope you try to be kind to yourself too! :)

  • in reply to Veb

    I probably didn’t word that right, I meant to say don’t be surprised if you experience other less comfortable emotions and thoughts. I think that wide range is a common experience and remember to take not if the positive times.so I hope you don’t feel disheartened if yuu do experience those.

    I tend to see the negative and if not all positive I forget the positive happened at all. Very black and white thinking, I think that’s common in ASD. 

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  • in reply to Veb

    I probably didn’t word that right, I meant to say don’t be surprised if you experience other less comfortable emotions and thoughts. I think that wide range is a common experience and remember to take not if the positive times.so I hope you don’t feel disheartened if yuu do experience those.

    I tend to see the negative and if not all positive I forget the positive happened at all. Very black and white thinking, I think that’s common in ASD. 

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