Anyone feel like a burden sometimes?

I live with my parents and I feel like most of the disagreements they have are because of my needs and likes and dislikes. For example, I don't like most food they do and my Dad is good at buying me something to have that I enjoy and Mum allows it. I feel like I am causing them a lot more disagreements and distress than I would if I were normal.

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  • It doesn’t sound like you are a burden if your Dad is good at getting you food you prefer. At least to me. Bu5 I can understand how easy it is to get that impression. I’ve had a lot of feelings that I’m a burden because my mental health can be quite unstable. I can be great one minute, plans go ahead, something no on3 else notices triggers me and I want to go home (tho I don’t I suffer with it and expose thar to others!).

    in many way# children are meant to be a “burden”. I mean parents go into it knowing it’s challenging, costly, limits them, is a life long commitment even when society expects the child to be self-supporting and independent. I understand some conditions and situations make that responsibility much bigger. But in the scale of things what you describe is nit a huge burden. Think of parents of children with major medical issues, or who for whatever reason have gotten involved with crime or drugs. That doesn’t sound like yoU honestly.

    I’m not trying to minimise how you may feel. Those of us with autism can overthink and be over critical of ourselves.

    have you spoken to them about these things? If you choose to maybe take an approach that you are concerned for them and maybe want to take some independence? Like getting a shopping list of things you like fi4 them. Maybe going shopping with them, if that something you can effectively manage, and get tg3 items out them in the shopping basket. It’s about little things that maybe say, I can take this bit off your plate.

     

  • I've spoken to my dad and he says I'm not a burden and they like looking after me

    I do the shopping with my dad already, haven't thought about having a list with my things on and helping it separate though - will suggest it to him!

  • I think you may be overthinking which is common. I do a lot. 

    I really wish you well. And hope to see you more on the.forum. 

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