I struggle with being taken advantage of, I was even told that at work by a manager. The lady is our bosses assistant. She asked me if I'm afraid of refusing. I'm not sure if I'm afraid... I just don't recognise on time, or not myself at all, that I should have refused to someone. It looks like people pleasing, but its not my intention. I obviously don't get people's intentions. I'm like a child- assume that all people are good and don't want any harm for me. Unfortunately I got it a hard way and although I already know from my experience, that absolutely not all people are good with good intentions, I still fall into this trap. Someone tells me to do something or go somewhere. I do it automatically. Like a robot. And maybe only later I would analyse the situation and come to a very unpleasant and uncomfortable conclusion, that I was taken advantage of. It's since ever. In my childhood it was same, I had some very painful memories of being bullied thus way.
Thus is one of the reasons, why I feel inferior to others. It's hard at work. The world is crazy, too fast, too complicated and I have to take decisions in real time. I'm too slow.
Sorry for this post. Has anyone experience or advice? Would be appreciated.
