Emotional dysregulation

Well I was reading this post on social media and it was on about the less spoken aspects of being N/D. One of the points was about emotional dysregulation and how strong emotions both positive and negative can manifest in the same way.

As well as being AuDHD I have TRD and it's really challenging to get through the days at times.

I just don't feel or experience positive emotions in any sense I can quantify, if I do encounter something that would prompt such emotions I just start to cry, there's no cathartic release it's just tears and embarrassment, yes I know tears should be embarrassing but I'm a 55 year old northern bloke and I don't like the lack of control. I do react in the same fashion when my mood dips dramatically but that is more understandable?

So, I understand that this isn't uncommon but not widely "advertised" but how the hell do I fix this. Before I read this post I'd never heard of anyone else mention it, I've spoken to mental health people in the past and they are either sympathetic or just look really confused.

Anyway thanks for reading and for any pointers that help guide the way.

Take care.

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  • Just a little update, I was doing some homework and I came across this which did resonate with me. Hopefully someone else may find it interesting/helpful?

    carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/.../audhd-and-alexithymia-navigating

  • Definitely interesting / helpful - thank you for highlighting that alexithymia article.

    Sometimes the delayed realisation for me can be days rather than hours.

    Unhelpfully, my version of "body first" can also seem to incur a time-lag too.  For example, why is my digestion whinging now? ...oh, yes, I got stressed, (not that I would have reliably been able to identify to myself at the time), from being too hot and humid on the bus earlier in the day!  The sad thing was that - had I known while travelling; I could have removed my jacket / opened a window / used my rechargeable fan from my bag - never mind - another thing to try to remember to preempt next time.

    In some situations, such as healthcare, it can be a real barrier to navigate successfully.

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  • Definitely interesting / helpful - thank you for highlighting that alexithymia article.

    Sometimes the delayed realisation for me can be days rather than hours.

    Unhelpfully, my version of "body first" can also seem to incur a time-lag too.  For example, why is my digestion whinging now? ...oh, yes, I got stressed, (not that I would have reliably been able to identify to myself at the time), from being too hot and humid on the bus earlier in the day!  The sad thing was that - had I known while travelling; I could have removed my jacket / opened a window / used my rechargeable fan from my bag - never mind - another thing to try to remember to preempt next time.

    In some situations, such as healthcare, it can be a real barrier to navigate successfully.

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