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Emotional dysregulation

Hergé

Well I was reading this post on social media and it was on about the less spoken aspects of being N/D. One of the points was about emotional dysregulation and how strong emotions both positive and negative can manifest in the same way.

As well as being AuDHD I have TRD and it's really challenging to get through the days at times.

I just don't feel or experience positive emotions in any sense I can quantify, if I do encounter something that would prompt such emotions I just start to cry, there's no cathartic release it's just tears and embarrassment, yes I know tears should be embarrassing but I'm a 55 year old northern bloke and I don't like the lack of control. I do react in the same fashion when my mood dips dramatically but that is more understandable?

So, I understand that this isn't uncommon but not widely "advertised" but how the hell do I fix this. Before I read this post I'd never heard of anyone else mention it, I've spoken to mental health people in the past and they are either sympathetic or just look really confused.

Anyway thanks for reading and for any pointers that help guide the way.

Take care.

  • in reply to Hergé

    Thanks for sharing this Herge. Im wishing you well even though I nothing specific to add. Good luck. 

  • Hey, I just read 

    Hergé said:
    I've just stated (today) my ADHD medication, so hopefully that may have some impact.

    That was four days ago. How do you feel? Does it feel like it’s helping at all yet? I mean, four days isn’t a long time, but sometimes that could be long enough to see a bit of a difference.

  • in reply to Hergé

    Definitely interesting / helpful - thank you for highlighting that alexithymia article.

    Sometimes the delayed realisation for me can be days rather than hours.

    Unhelpfully, my version of "body first" can also seem to incur a time-lag too.  For example, why is my digestion whinging now? ...oh, yes, I got stressed, (not that I would have reliably been able to identify to myself at the time), from being too hot and humid on the bus earlier in the day!  The sad thing was that - had I known while travelling; I could have removed my jacket / opened a window / used my rechargeable fan from my bag - never mind - another thing to try to remember to preempt next time.

    In some situations, such as healthcare, it can be a real barrier to navigate successfully.

  • Just a little update, I was doing some homework and I came across this which did resonate with me. Hopefully someone else may find it interesting/helpful?

    carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/.../audhd-and-alexithymia-navigating

  • in reply to Olivia Mod

    I've been living with this for decades before my autism and ADHD every were suggesting.

    I'm just one of those cases that fell through the cracks of the system.

    As it says on the tin TRD is exactly what it says, I'm on the waiting list for rTMS but like everything else it's a long list. I've just stated (today) my ADHD medication, so hopefully that may have some impact.

    Thank you.

  • in reply to Hergé

    I am sorry that I cannot find many signposts specifically for TRD, and I can imagine that it must be frustrating when you are signposted to general depression and treatment pages. 

    I hope our online community can help with some further advice or guidance. Please keep reaching out if you ever need help or support. 

    Best wishes,

    Olivia Mod

  • in reply to Olivia Mod

    I have TRD and accessing helpful treatments is a challenge in itself. Thank you.

  • Dear Herge,

    It is really great that you shared your experiences with the online community,. I know some of our members are probably going through similar situations and hopefully they can reach out and give some support or advice through their lived experiences. 

    I understand that it must be really difficult to cope with feelings of shame or embarrassment when you cry or react to strong emotions, but I hope you know that you are not on your own and this is a common reaction to strong emotions.

    I have shared some signposts below that may be worth taking a look through, but hopefully our community will soon reach out with some more support:
    Seeking help with mental health

    Depression

    Best wishes,

    Olivia Mod