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Hergé

Well my life is about to take a massive left turn.

My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer a month ago. So currently the plan is six months of chemo and then surgery. I'm trying very hard not to go down a very dark rabbit hole but it's incredible difficult.

 Also have ADHD and getting my brain just to quiet down a bit so I can calmly process the vast amount of information that's currently buzzing about.

My mood hasn't been great for years and trying to get the NHS to  deal with my TRD is frustrating at best and we now have this to deal with.

I will be there for my wife every step of the way, no matter what the outcome but I'm under no illusions how hard this is going to be.

My wife is the core of my world and I don't want to contemplate what could happen.

So, sorry for the waffle but I just need to park these thoughts somewhere.

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  • I’m sorry that you and your wife have been going through this for the last month. For many women, the initial shock of diagnosis and yet to be decided course of treatment is the worse part. Some women get into a routine and a type of rhythm that carries them along soon after the first chemotherapy treatment.

    Hergé said:
    I will be there for my wife every step of the way, no matter what the outcome but I'm under no illusions how hard this is going to be.

    That is something purposeful and practical that you can do. It can be harder for the husbands and families in many ways and that is something I learned from experience both as a breast cancer patient on one occasion, and as a family member on a second occasion, watching another go through breast cancer treatment.

    Macmillan Cancer Support is there for patients and families https://www.macmillan.org.uk They offer practical and listening support. They don’t tell you stuff just to try to pacify you. It’s real, tangible useful support. I am confident that they would do their best to understand your situation as an autistic person with ADHD. 

    I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts now and in the coming months.

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  • I’m sorry that you and your wife have been going through this for the last month. For many women, the initial shock of diagnosis and yet to be decided course of treatment is the worse part. Some women get into a routine and a type of rhythm that carries them along soon after the first chemotherapy treatment.

    Hergé said:
    I will be there for my wife every step of the way, no matter what the outcome but I'm under no illusions how hard this is going to be.

    That is something purposeful and practical that you can do. It can be harder for the husbands and families in many ways and that is something I learned from experience both as a breast cancer patient on one occasion, and as a family member on a second occasion, watching another go through breast cancer treatment.

    Macmillan Cancer Support is there for patients and families https://www.macmillan.org.uk They offer practical and listening support. They don’t tell you stuff just to try to pacify you. It’s real, tangible useful support. I am confident that they would do their best to understand your situation as an autistic person with ADHD. 

    I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts now and in the coming months.

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