My Head Is A Mess

I absolutely believe that if you do something wrong you have to be called out for it. I have been a past and present letdown so it is right for me to be called out on it. Yet, my head does get caught up in a mass amount of guilt and shame because of this as well as the bad names I get called for, notably that 'I am a parasite'. I also then get accused of being malevolent, that I do bad things because I want to, but that is not the case. I am not evil, I am just very stupid at times. I want to know how to be better, yet my head gets consumed by all the insults I have been given in the heat of the moment of being told off. I do not know how to compartmentalize, to learn from my mistakes and not let the name calling consume me. It makes my heart hurt, makes me want to shut down, and makes me want to hide. 

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  • Nobody talks about bullying in adulthood.

    The ignorance and apathy I received daily for the first part of my life is a joke. Its still there and I still do but the difference is I largely choose not to listen to it. Its a narrative which supports the continguency of type which have outgrown their use -so these people attempt to disrupt all areas of life. Even if I didn't acknolwdedge it then, people treating people badly for so long tricked my brain into thinking the problem was me and because of me. Understand we (here) are largely in the same boat. 

    At work I can perform well be kind and courteous to others but I am got rid of and up paid because it is a system that doesn't support me (at the moment). I try not to let it bring me down becasue I am looking for solutions and share clarity of my thoughts with people here. Even if somedays I struggle myself.

    The solution I see at the moment is raising awareness to the subtle and underhand discrimination that is going on in society towards neurodiverse people. Neurotypical people trying to control time by wasting everyone elses. This is largely what I have observed. If you don't engage, which lockdown has shown us we don't and can work from home then the world becomes a more level playing field. This can be done in all areas of life. It doesnt have to be in a way thats difficult for you.

    Overwhelming feelings and emotions can scramble thoughts so your unable to process them fully. It becomes like a loop.

    The start is to pull back and focus on you, going to see a therapist has really helped me. 

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  • Nobody talks about bullying in adulthood.

    The ignorance and apathy I received daily for the first part of my life is a joke. Its still there and I still do but the difference is I largely choose not to listen to it. Its a narrative which supports the continguency of type which have outgrown their use -so these people attempt to disrupt all areas of life. Even if I didn't acknolwdedge it then, people treating people badly for so long tricked my brain into thinking the problem was me and because of me. Understand we (here) are largely in the same boat. 

    At work I can perform well be kind and courteous to others but I am got rid of and up paid because it is a system that doesn't support me (at the moment). I try not to let it bring me down becasue I am looking for solutions and share clarity of my thoughts with people here. Even if somedays I struggle myself.

    The solution I see at the moment is raising awareness to the subtle and underhand discrimination that is going on in society towards neurodiverse people. Neurotypical people trying to control time by wasting everyone elses. This is largely what I have observed. If you don't engage, which lockdown has shown us we don't and can work from home then the world becomes a more level playing field. This can be done in all areas of life. It doesnt have to be in a way thats difficult for you.

    Overwhelming feelings and emotions can scramble thoughts so your unable to process them fully. It becomes like a loop.

    The start is to pull back and focus on you, going to see a therapist has really helped me. 

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