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Making up problems

Expecto_Patronum

I'm not this is an autism thing, possibly more of an anxiety thing but I'm aware many people here also share this difficulty. I am terrible for making up something to be worried about and then it locking in as a problem and not being able to stop worrying about it.

Today someone in work made a suggestion they thought would be helpful. I said no but didn't explain why. The person didn't push it and that was the end of the conversation. But I've now completely convinced myself because I didn't give an explanation that tomorrow this suggestion will be forced upon me.

I'm aware this is ridiculous and a waste of energy and am making myself feel for rubbish for no good reason. I've tried so many things to stop my brain spiralling in these situations. I try to distract myself, I try to rationalise, I try to show myself there's more evidence against this thought, I've tried writing it down. I really don't know what else I could to stop these endless spirals. As if I don't already worry about enough of life without adding made up worries to the mix!

Does anyone else struggle with this? Has anyone ever found a strategy that actually works to stop it?

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  • In the words of Madness (or was it Bad Manners) = "One step beyond!"

    For a good-wee-while, I think I actually created problems.......just so I had something to solve/think about!?

    "Next-level" [edited by mod] up mate.

  • in reply to Number

    Apologies to the MODS for my ordering of some letters, in a way that (phonetically) they can then be made to sound like a rude word,  on this 18+ only forum.  Understanding da RULES here these days, is a challenge for a simple autist.

    This place is STRICTER than the BBC these days!

    MY censored "vibe" above could alternatively be expressed as;

    a) "Next-level" messed up.

    b) "Next level" re-torted.

    c) "Next-level" problem.

    I was just trying to "connect" with my fellow autists, in a way that feels genuine and honest.

    Apologies for trying to do that in a way that was deemed inappropriate to da current management.

    Apologies for not giving ONLY bona fide advice from selected and approved NAS sources, rather than trying to be part of a community that can share and feel inclusive.

    Ta ta.

  • in reply to Number

    I didn't think it was offensive, much in a similar vein to Father Ted, so to speak.

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Holy Moses.....fellow human.....are you mentioning/alluding to matters of religion!?!

    BRAVE - Cinnabar_wing ! ........but thanks for the reassurance, in any event.

    I prefer not to tangle with officialdom.....especially daft officialdom......I'll dutifully return to under my stone/log = as I feel I must....and continue to watch.......quietly.....and increasingly infrequently.

    Be well C-w.

    Best wishes

    Number.