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Making up problems

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I'm not this is an autism thing, possibly more of an anxiety thing but I'm aware many people here also share this difficulty. I am terrible for making up something to be worried about and then it locking in as a problem and not being able to stop worrying about it.

Today someone in work made a suggestion they thought would be helpful. I said no but didn't explain why. The person didn't push it and that was the end of the conversation. But I've now completely convinced myself because I didn't give an explanation that tomorrow this suggestion will be forced upon me.

I'm aware this is ridiculous and a waste of energy and am making myself feel for rubbish for no good reason. I've tried so many things to stop my brain spiralling in these situations. I try to distract myself, I try to rationalise, I try to show myself there's more evidence against this thought, I've tried writing it down. I really don't know what else I could to stop these endless spirals. As if I don't already worry about enough of life without adding made up worries to the mix!

Does anyone else struggle with this? Has anyone ever found a strategy that actually works to stop it?

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  • Often, I have to keep reminding myself that this is something that hasn't actually happened and may never happen and why do I feel the need to beat myself up in this way. It sort of turns the rumination back on itself and hopefully down a more fruitful path.

    I've often asked myself what would happen if I had nothing to worry about? The answer seems to be that I don't feel safe, safety comes from this vigilance, almost everytime I've dropped my guard and taken things at face value and believed others when they say I'm ok or valued, is just before they all dump on me from a great height and my life is once again ripped up like waste paper and I have to start all over again. It's why I'm very wary of getting involved with people, luckily I don't work and so no longer have this anxiety around people that I have no control over being around.

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  • Often, I have to keep reminding myself that this is something that hasn't actually happened and may never happen and why do I feel the need to beat myself up in this way. It sort of turns the rumination back on itself and hopefully down a more fruitful path.

    I've often asked myself what would happen if I had nothing to worry about? The answer seems to be that I don't feel safe, safety comes from this vigilance, almost everytime I've dropped my guard and taken things at face value and believed others when they say I'm ok or valued, is just before they all dump on me from a great height and my life is once again ripped up like waste paper and I have to start all over again. It's why I'm very wary of getting involved with people, luckily I don't work and so no longer have this anxiety around people that I have no control over being around.

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