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Social Panic! What do I do?

WitchyPrincess06

I'm having a bit of a dilemma. One of my best friends has invited me round to her place for dinner tomorrow night as it would give us a chance to exchange presents in time before Christmas. But she’s also invited other people round, some I know but there's a couple I don’t know and it's kinda caught me off guard a little bit. 

You see, the last couple of years, We've normally just had a wee quiet night in with dinner and watching Xmas film. But it's totally different like with new people and it's gonna be like a small party or something which is setting off my social anxiety a little bit.

Because of that it's now me not that enthusiastic about going... and I feel absolutely horrible and guilty for feeling like that. But I still like I have to go as it may be the only opportunity/chance I have to exchange gifts in time for Christmas. I've been saying to myself that I'll go for dinner, exchange presents then see if I can last until maybe 9:00pm or 10:00pm (as I'm due to be there for 7:00pm) 

But I'm worried of how that'll look, am I a terrible friend for only wanting to try and leave early? Is it terrible that I'm excited about going? 

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  • WitchyPrincess06 said:
    it's gonna be like a small party or something which is setting off my social anxiety a little bit.

    What I like to do is get curious - I wonder what they will be like, what can I ask them about, what things will I learn etc.

    By spinning it to a more positive take then it becomes something I look forward to and arrive in a better frame of mind to interact.

    Having time to do a little research on questions etc takes my mind off worrying about it in advance and because I have some material to work with when I'm there then I don't fear being unprepared.

    In the end it is a win-win. You enjoy yourself because you are already in a good head space, you learn stuff, meet new people and prove you can overcome your anxieties.

    It is just my way - it may not work for you.

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  • WitchyPrincess06 said:
    it's gonna be like a small party or something which is setting off my social anxiety a little bit.

    What I like to do is get curious - I wonder what they will be like, what can I ask them about, what things will I learn etc.

    By spinning it to a more positive take then it becomes something I look forward to and arrive in a better frame of mind to interact.

    Having time to do a little research on questions etc takes my mind off worrying about it in advance and because I have some material to work with when I'm there then I don't fear being unprepared.

    In the end it is a win-win. You enjoy yourself because you are already in a good head space, you learn stuff, meet new people and prove you can overcome your anxieties.

    It is just my way - it may not work for you.

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