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I'm frustrated even though I had a fun day

Zena

I went to a fair or amusement park? [Spanish: una feria] and I had a lot of fun but the moment I got home I started overthinking and became frustrated. I'm new here btw. Just decided to join this community cause I want to talk I guess. Crazy things happen in my life a lot and these recent years I've been horrible at dealing with these things. Anyway I guess I'm a bit frustrated because I felt like I wasn't fully there? Like I was there enjoying myself and talking and laughing but I also found myself zoning out a lot and feeling out of place. Like I was there for a while then I wasn't. I also felt ignored sometimes? Idk I'm just kinda rambling at this point. I guess I was frustrated cause I was like not fully there when I should've. We haven't gone in a fair for years and we finally were able to. I really enjoyed it. Had lots of fun but I just kept zoning out and feeling out of place. It's not like my family members did anything wrong it just kept happening. Sorry if this is just a weird post

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  • Hello Zena, welcome to the community.

    Zena said:
    I guess I was frustrated cause I was like not fully there when I should've.

    I would ask you the question - who is saying that you should have done this? If it is you, where did these expectations come from - try to trace them back.

    What I have found from talking with other people is that they are taking expectations they have "learned" from neurotypical people and assumed that these apply to them too.

    I found the healthiest way is to be able to pause and look at how you are reacting from time to time and think "does this feel natural or am I acting?" which gives me a good indication if I'm doing it for me or for other peoples expectations.

    When you can do this you get to be in your own moment all the time and you can take the pleasure in ways that work for you. If you are there as a part of a group them some compromises probably need to be made however.

    These sorts of places are overstimulating so it can be a challenge to control our reactions all the time so I would suggest do what feels right to you.

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  • Hello Zena, welcome to the community.

    Zena said:
    I guess I was frustrated cause I was like not fully there when I should've.

    I would ask you the question - who is saying that you should have done this? If it is you, where did these expectations come from - try to trace them back.

    What I have found from talking with other people is that they are taking expectations they have "learned" from neurotypical people and assumed that these apply to them too.

    I found the healthiest way is to be able to pause and look at how you are reacting from time to time and think "does this feel natural or am I acting?" which gives me a good indication if I'm doing it for me or for other peoples expectations.

    When you can do this you get to be in your own moment all the time and you can take the pleasure in ways that work for you. If you are there as a part of a group them some compromises probably need to be made however.

    These sorts of places are overstimulating so it can be a challenge to control our reactions all the time so I would suggest do what feels right to you.

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