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older parent nightmare

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looking for some advice here really hoping someone can help.  i was diagnosed recently.    my mother is 80 and doesnt live alone but is ringing me 3 times  a day.  if i dont answer she rings again, never leaves a message.  its driving me insane, she has nothing new to say and she is constantly wanting to know what ive been doing, where ive been, why i didnt answer the phone.  ive tried to politely say, ive already talked to you today but she doesnt care and then will say if thats how you feel i wont ever ring you again, to make me feel bad.  im an adult and im sick of having no privacy. its really affecting my mental health.  im always polite but i cant take much more of it.  how would you approach this.  she doesnt live alone so has company, i wouldnt mind but all she does is moan about people.  what would you do.  thanks

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  • My mother is the same. I'm very patient with her. You have to understand that she is very old and her brain isn't functioning correctly. It's best to answer her calls and reassure her that you are ok. At 80, you have to be there for her as she dosen't have long left. Answer the phone, listen to her for a few minutes and then close the conversation politely. Make sure she is ok. I find the phone ringing dreadful. Even mail in the post sends my anxiety through the roof.

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  • My mother is the same. I'm very patient with her. You have to understand that she is very old and her brain isn't functioning correctly. It's best to answer her calls and reassure her that you are ok. At 80, you have to be there for her as she dosen't have long left. Answer the phone, listen to her for a few minutes and then close the conversation politely. Make sure she is ok. I find the phone ringing dreadful. Even mail in the post sends my anxiety through the roof.

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